I recently read Montessori from the Start, and I've become acquainted with the general principles of Montessori education and upbringing. In particular, I do believe that an orderly environment with a place for everything is a good way to raise children.
However, my husband is the kind of person who just leaves things ...wherever. He's the kind of person who never makes the bed because it's just going to get slept in again. He keeps asking me to buy a second laundry basket, but I resist because if we had two, he'd never put his clothes in the drawers. We have talks/fights about this from time to time (often including him reminding me that "entropy is the law!"), but they seem to have little lasting effect. He and I spend about equal time taking care of our 9-month-old son, since we each work from home for half of the day and are in the office for the other half. When I get home to take over after a morning in the office, there are toys everywhere, the baby's baskets of clothes are off the shelves, and sometimes the potty (we do EC) still has the morning poop in it!
I also should add that he has a traumatic brain injury, and I'm never really sure how much of his quirks have to do with that, how much have to do with just being a guy, how much is just how he is, and how much is trying to drive me crazy.
I've accepted the fact that I'll never change my husband, though I do point out when he is making my life more difficult. However, I really want to raise my children to have a respect for and inclination toward order. Among other things, having some help reversing the entropy around here would be pretty awesome.
I would even be ok with my kids having two ways of being--a different set of rules for mom and dad.
Has anyone attempted to have an orderly Montessori-in-the-home environment when your spouse doesn't really see the value in an orderly lifestyle? I could use some advice/help/assistance.