We have two bio children. Before we ever had kids we always said we'd like to have 2 bio kids and then adopt down the road...not even realizing we would then have our second daughter who has a severe genetic disorder, of which we are not sure if she got from us or if it was a spontaneous mutation). So we want to adopt any future kids. Before i had my daughter I said "god bless" those who can adopt special needs kids, but that i could never do it. But now i'm DOING it. And it's been a long hard road, and i know there are so many different TYPES of special needs, but something within me wants to adopt a special needs baby.
What is the best way to do this? I don't know that I want to adopt a child with EXTREME special needs, simply because i have 2 other children that I also homeschool, but my daughter has Tuberous Sclerosis Complex and extreme epilepsy as a result, and we've dealt with all kinds of strong meds, hospitalizations, home nurses, and currently Early Intervention and about six pediatric specialists. So we've learned to handle a lot.
Is there a way to find a certain type of special needs child? I'm thinking it would be great to adopt a mid-to-higher functioning child with epilepsy/LGS or Tuberous Sclerosis since i know about those, or a downs baby that is higher functioning. Is it possible to be that picky?
Is foster-adoption still going to be the cheapest route to adoption even with a special needs child or are there other "incentives", etc for adopting special needs kids?