I don't know what it is about pregnancy and children that make people think they can say whatever they want. I've gotten quite a few strange comments and questions. I've only really told the friends that I see in person and my family. I haven't announced it on facebook yet, but I'm sure there are more weird comments in store for me when I do. I know it's going to get even worse when I am obviously pregnant, because then strangers will want to tell me what they think about it.
To be fair, most of my friends have been delighted about the news and have been nothing but polite, but here are some of the inappropriate comments I've gotten so far.
"Were you trying?"
How is that ever an appropriate thing to ask?
"Are you happy?"
WTH?? Would I be smiling about the news if I hated it? If I was unhappy about it would I be sharing the news with my friends? That one feels rude when people say it, but it's also so confusing to me.
"You're gonna want an epidural."
If one more woman says this to me I am going to flip out. Thanks for predicting my future, lady. Just because you wanted an epidural doesn't mean every other woman in the entire world does too.
The one that irritated me the most was a comment from a childless male acquaintance of mine. At a friend's bbq one of the dogs was staring me down while I ate. I said "NO" to get her to back off. The male acquaintance said, "Oh, you better get used to saying that a lot for the next twenty years."
I usually try to be kind to people, but this time I went with my snarky gut instinct and said, "How many kids do you have? None? Thanks for the parenting advice."
What kind of weirdness and rudeness have you gotten from people? Do you have any good comebacks? And what is it about being pregnant that makes everyone think they get to chime in with whatever comes to mind?