I'm just wondering if anyone else can relate to this. Our dd is 5.5 yo, and we kind of assumed that she would be an only. I've been waffling heavily for the past year about whether to have another, and am realizing that I'm not so concerned about the work of another child as I am about the prospect of another long haul on the mom scene. Maybe it's just my town (others have mentioned that they find this a hard place to make friends as well), but I just feel like so many of the moms are so "on" all the time. Upbeat and confident-- and I feel kind of like an oddball because I can't stand library story times and that sort of cutesy thing. Add to that, I've gained a bit of weight and lost some of my own self-confidence, plus my dd is a bit of a firecracker, and I often perceieve a bit of judgement over her behavior (not sure how much is real versus in my head). I have a few friends here who are really nice, but they all have extended family nearby who they spend a lot of time with and can count on to watch their kids, etc. I don't know. I had just finished my master's degree and a couple years of work (in a field that I love) before having dd- but I don't really feel a pull to go back right now, and I feel very strongly that I want to stay at home with any children that we have. I'm just a VERY social person (seriously, I'm crazy friendly) and it's hard to feel so isolated and out of place. I only need one or two close friends, but here I feel like I'm kind of on the periphery of larger "mom sororities." Dd will be starting half-day kindy in the fall, and part of me feels like I'll finally be able to start volunteering more and getting involved in things and maybe making some connections. So- I just don't know how to do it. How to commit myself to staying home to raise another child and make it work so that I don't feel like I'm just withering inside from lack of real connection with other adults (should clarify that my dh works a LOT). I just never guessed at how lonely this would be.
Any other extravert moms who don't do "the scene"? Advice?