I'm at such a lonely place right now, feeling isolated at home with the babe and not really finding other moms that I click with out there. The truth is, I have never really had good female friends.
Until I met my DH, I always had great friendships with guys. But these relationships gradually petered out (pardon the pun?) as DH and I got more serious, and as most of my male friends found their own SOs. Now I have no friends and realize that all the men have mysteriously vanished from my life. In a few cases, they're still there, but now it seems like I'm expected to be friends with their wives instead of them. Is this what happens as we get older? We have to gender-segregate to respect everyone's marriages?
I actually go out of my way NOT to talk to SAHDs too much for fear of being inappropriate. Like, if I wanted to schedule a play date or get coffee together with the kids, how would their wives feel?
My own mother was in incorrigible flirt and it bothered me tremendously when I was a kid. I am very aware of the dangers of turning into my mom, and I'm trying really hard to avoid that (in a lot of areas, not just this one). And my dad didn't give me enough affection, so it is possible that I may have "daddy issues".
But I also just have an irreverent and often dark/sick sense of humor that men seem to appreciate more than women. I don't like to talk about babies very much. I like to have absurd conversations that meander along as each person riffs on what the other one has said and it's just for the fun of that moment. I like when there's chemistry there and the conversations flow.
Is there a way to have male friends as a SAHM? Or is that phase of my life just over?