You might be a 'crunchy' parent if... - Page 2

[chaoticzenmom]

I understand that this was meant as a lighthearted thread.  Its obvious that some have found it insulting.  I request that you please remember the U/A  when you post to the thread and keep it constructive.

Thanks

[McGucks]

I thought this thread was funny, not "we are the champions, my friends."  I agree with the PPs that say do what you wanna do as long as you love your children.  I don't think the OP made this out to be a superiority forum.  Just funny. 

[PhoenixMommaToTwo]

Originally Posted by eclipse 

Originally Posted by GuildJenn 

Blame Gwenyth Paltrow.

I blame Gwenyth Paltrow for everything.

Geez, doesn't everyone?

Originally Posted by Ldavis24 

I would totally sit with you at the lunch table at school

Me too.

[purplerose]

I saw it as naming things that made us non-mainstream, not pretending we're better than anyone. There's actual reasons things are called mainstream, and some aren't, that has nothing to do with being better than someone else!

[peaceful_mama]

Um, it was supposed to be funny.  I am old I guess LOL I remember when Jeff Foxworthy might have been a redneck....

And I also remember when this was the kind of place somebody could post something like this and people would go with it and it was funny.

If we've all gotten too serious to have a funny thread, then I guess a mod can take it down.  Really.  It wasn't meant to be a superiority thread for us over any other site or for who's the crunchiest.  Just funny.  That's all.

[Adaline'sMama]

Originally Posted by peaceful_mama 

Um, it was supposed to be funny.  I am old I guess LOL I remember when Jeff Foxworthy might have been a redneck....

And I also remember when this was the kind of place somebody could post something like this and people would go with it and it was funny.

If we've all gotten too serious to have a funny thread, then I guess a mod can take it down.  Really.  It wasn't meant to be a superiority thread for us over any other site or for who's the crunchiest.  Just funny.  That's all.

I totally agree. I think its cute, and I was kind of annoyed to see people's response that just because posters are saying what they do differently they are trying to make themselves out to be superior. Let it rest already......not everything that gets posted on MDC about how some of us are different from the mainstream is meant to make you feel inferior (or anyone feel inferior).


By the way, I totally thought I was the only one who keeps nut yeast in my parm container
My parents always ask where the anti bacterial hand gel is when the visit. The Dr. Bronners just doesnt cut it for them. Most of the time I forget about things like lysol, anti bacterial hand gel, store bought baby wipes, paper towels, and other things that my family expects me to have in the house and Im always like, "Uh, we have a bottle of witch hazel and tea tree oil?" Maybe I should go shopping before they come this weekend. I have started making sure to buy paper towels when we have guests, most people just use them all.the.time.

[alittlesandy]

Quote:

Originally Posted by IdahoMom 

You keep score of all the things you do that make you a "better" parent than your "mainstream" neighbors and family.

I'm so glad I'm not the only one who thought this after reading the op. I'm so tired of failing the AP litmus test.

How you know when you won't be invited to the AP self-congratulatory club:

Had a c-section...check

Gave my baby a bottle before six weeks, risking (gasp!) nipple confusion, because I HAD to return to work after five weeks...check

Bought and used a crib...check

Bought and used a stroller...check

Know what?

I did everything possible to flip my breech baby, including seeing a chiropractor, an acupuncturist, a Chinese-herbalist, and laying upside down on an ironing board for several days.

I worked my A** off to breastfeed for two years, through thrush, mastitis, etc. My baby never had a drop of formula.

I carried my son as much as possible despite a c-section scar that wouldn't heal and severe back pain. I ended up using a stroller half the time.

I put my son to sleep in a crib when he was mobile because I sleep in a loft with an open-railing and I was terrified he would fall out.

I know I sound defensive. I AM defensive.

I unsubscribed to one of my favorite blogs because the author wrote this long post about how she doesn't want her daughter to play with baby bottles or strollers and never EVER wants her daughter to association a bottle with feeding a baby. WTF? I am the breadwinner of my family and had no choice but to pump and bottle-feed. I proudly associate bottles with my ability to continue breastfeeding my child even after going back to work.

I absolutely love and agree with all aspects of AP, but why do there have to be so many unrelenting comparisons? It just makes me sad...

[~Charlie's~Angel~]

 

Originally Posted by PhoenixMommaToTwo 

Me too.

[sosurreal09]

1. There is a bucket in the bathroom next to the toilet for your FC!

2. There are no flashing/singing/battery operated toys in your house

3. There is one bedroom full of mattresses on the floor where you all sleep

4. You compost the babies poop

5. You make all your own all natural cleaning products or steam clean everything

6. Someone offers you DC Cheerios and you come running over with a GMO free alternative

...There is a lot more I could think of but DD is calling me!

BTW everyone relax a bit will you! MDC doesn't need to be a battleground 24/7 you know. Also not circing a child is not "crunchy" in my book...

[~Charlie's~Angel~]

I wanted to re-emphasize this sentiment.  I know I am not the only one who feels this way.  So sad.  Might have to bow out of this entire community for a while.

 

Originally Posted by melijack1 

... I just wish I thought I could share more about myself without being judged for it.

[Adaline'sMama]

Originally Posted by sosurreal09 

1. There is a bucket in the bathroom next to the toilet for your FC!

2. There are no flashing/singing/battery operated toys in your house

3. There is one bedroom full of mattresses on the floor where you all sleep

4. You compost the babies poop

5. You make all your own all natural cleaning products or steam clean everything

6. Someone offers you DC Cheerios and you come running over with a GMO free alternative

...There is a lot more I could think of but DD is calling me!

BTW everyone relax a bit will you! MDC doesn't need to be a battleground 24/7 you know. Also not circing a child is not "crunchy" in my book...

Right on. You are the first person Ive ever known to do this, and I have many friends with composting toilets.

[prairiemommy]

Well then, in the spirit of this thread, here is why our family is not mainstream:

My kids ask me things like, "Mom, when are you going to go boob shopping?"

My cats think stuffed breasts are fun cat toys.

My kids ask if I'm going to have chemo again.

My youngest rubs my scars instead of my breasts to comfort me, not himself. 

My kids got looked after by new people that I hadn't vetted or even met myself every single day for 3 months. 

This mama naps.

[McGucks]

Originally Posted by alittlesandy 

I know I sound defensive. I AM defensive.

I unsubscribed to one of my favorite blogs because the author wrote this long post about how she doesn't want her daughter to play with baby bottles or strollers and never EVER wants her daughter to association a bottle with feeding a baby. WTF? I am the breadwinner of my family and had no choice but to pump and bottle-feed. I proudly associate bottles with my ability to continue breastfeeding my child even after going back to work.

I absolutely love and agree with all aspects of AP, but why do there have to be so many unrelenting comparisons? It just makes me sad...

You sound pretty darn awesome to me.  You went through an awful lot to raise your child in accordance with your values.  Good for you!  Not everyone understands what some folks have to endure to raise their children. 

[lovelylisa]

What if I compost my babies poop in the trunk of the car rusting in my front yard?

Does that make me a crunchy redneck? 

[Emma Bryan Fuller]

I am not as crunchy as I thought I was after all :)

   Enjoying reading this post, got me thinking. Have been considering using cloth wipes and make more natural cleaning products. Also, I really need a push to be done with paper towels once and for all. 

[Eligracey]

Originally Posted by alittlesandy 

I know I sound defensive. I AM defensive.

I absolutely love and agree with all aspects of AP, but why do there have to be so many unrelenting comparisons? It just makes me sad...

Right on, mama!

I pumped and bottle fed, too, after returning to work, and I even put my baby in the evil, evil daycare! I had a CNM birth instead of a UC, and I'm doing mama-led weaning right now, at age 2.5! He's sleeping in a crib as I type this. Sounds good to me, since he's loved and cherished and well-taken care of and I'm the center of his world. Maybe we should start a spin-off thread on "why I'm not crunchy enough for MDC." Feel free to quote my post in a new thread if anyone's interested in starting it.
 

[purplerose]

Is human poop ok for gardening? I always heard it wasn't.

And if I had fake breasts(removable) I'm sure my dog would find and chew them up.

[sosurreal09]

I think everyone is going way overboard here with defenses. Why not look at it all in a better light?

I was informed before I had my c-section and even tried chiropractic care

I pumped exclusively

I nursed until 2.5 y/o

My baby slept in a crib, but I never did CIO!

We don't eat organic but we eat all whole foods

etc etc these all seem pretty non-mainstream to me. We aren't here to judge each other and fight! Like OP said she was just trying to start a fun thread...don't make it something it's not.

[oaktreemama]

When you stop making lists about how special and sparkly your parenting is because you realize (almost) everyone is doing the best they can.

[oaktreemama]

don't make it something it's not. 

It is impossible to be anything else other than a crunchfest checklist.