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post #41 of 80

Another vote for "The days are long but the years are short."

 

Also "SERENITY NOW!"  winky.gif

post #42 of 80

'Love Unconditionally'

 

Or, 'How you spend your days is how you spend your years'. 

 

Both help my shape my parenting choices.

post #43 of 80
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"Do the best you can where you are, and be kind"   got this one from Soulemama today but she quoted it from Scott Nearing, don't know who that is but I love the quote so I thought I'd share.

 

I like the addition of the words 'where you are' because it reminds me that where I am is likely to change and grow and I can always do the best I can with whatever life hands me.

post #44 of 80

"breathe"

post #45 of 80
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Pick your battles wisely.



Love this.

 

 

post #46 of 80

I am not responsible for my child's happiness; I am only responsible for meeting her needs and providing the opportunity to be happy.

 

(she is going through a lot of tantrums lately and this helps remind me that she is just not going to be happy all the time and that's okay)

post #47 of 80
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I am not responsible for my child's happiness; I am only responsible for meeting her needs and providing the opportunity to be happy.

 

(she is going through a lot of tantrums lately and this helps remind me that she is just not going to be happy all the time and that's okay)


This was a big one for me.  It is not my job to keep my child from ever feeling any mental pain. 

 

 

post #48 of 80
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This was a big one for me.  It is not my job to keep my child from ever feeling any mental pain. 

 

 


this would be dh's.  in fact, his would be, it is my duty as a parent to make sure my children experience discomfort and disappointment.

 

post #49 of 80
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this would be dh's.  in fact, his would be, it is my duty as a parent to make sure my children experience discomfort and disappointment.

 



Hmm.  I'm sorry!   I think my take is a little different from your dh's.

 

 

post #50 of 80
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Hmm.  I'm sorry!   I think my take is a little different from your dh's.

 

 

 

actually, it's not...i was just exaggerating a bit.
 

 

post #51 of 80

OK, I must be misunderstanding you.  So I'm just going to clarify what my thinking was when I posted the above.  I was getting myself tied up in knots, feeling horribly like I'd failed my job as a mom whenever my daughter experienced some sort of mental anguish:  painful break-up with close friend, painful breakup with first boyfriend, that kind of thing.  That she was unhappy, even really unhappy, wasn't a FAIL on my part.  I needed to calm the heck down so I could comfort her.  So my above statement was something of a revelation to me. 

 

That's all! orngbiggrin.gif

 

 

 

 

 

post #52 of 80

"You can't rush a river"

post #53 of 80

Not a hill to die on.

post #54 of 80

probably: treat others as you wish to be treated

post #55 of 80

Be. Here. Now.

 

As a single mommy, this is the only thing that keeps me from *freaking out* sometimes :)

post #56 of 80
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'Love Unconditionally'

 

Or, 'How you spend your days is how you spend your years'. 

 

Both help my shape my parenting choices.


Ooh, "How you spend your days is how you spend your years".  Yes.  A more direct and useful version of "Life is what happens while you're making other plans".
 

 

post #57 of 80
When they were babies, my mantra was ..... Respond.

Now that they are 5 and 7, my mantra to myself is ..... Be still.


Does that resonate with anyone?redface.gif
post #58 of 80

Connection before correction.

post #59 of 80

Oh ... and:

 

When in doubt, hug.

post #60 of 80

'Don't do, just be.'  (we're all happier when I put my expectations and agendas aside and give us all room to be ourselves)

 

or...

 

'Wait.'  - because babies are so much smarter than we ( i ) think they are, and giving my DS time to solve his own problems (getting a good grip on an apple to gnaw on or rolling off a pillow on the floor) always ends with a goofy, victorious grin, and watching him master his surroundings is more exciting than me showing him how to.

 

which leads me to my final and favorite option:

"When you teach a child something, you take away forever his chance of discovering it for himself" - Jean Piaget.

 

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