glad to know that i'm not the only one feeling sad at the prospect of having no more kids (or who is conflicted about it right now).
Originally Posted by bluepetals
samstress, I would never have guessed you were 39! I assumed you were in your 20's based on your photos. :)
well, you're my new best friend.
i feel like it's kind of moot for me too, because my dh is done as well. it's not that he wouldn't like more children, it's just that he thinks it would be completely irresponsible given our current financial situation.
Originally Posted by sonshine_rae
My DH is researching vasectomies..
i've told dh that his getting a vasectomy would be easier than the equivalent for me. he's a bit nervous about it, but will do it. it just seems so permanent. and i'd rather not use any hormonal birth control.
Originally Posted by LacieD
We're about 95% sure we're done. I don't feel like our family is incomplete - quite the opposite, actually. I just can't believe that I'll never be pregnant again, or have a squishy newborn again. I'm just trying to enjoy Dylan as much as I can, and move on to the next stage of our family life. :)
Originally Posted by seafox
Marina came a bit earlier than I expected and I was too excited to meet her to remember to really appreciate the last days of my last pregnancy
plus, the second pregnancy just went by so much faster in general!
i knew there was a strong possibility that this would be our last, so i really tried to enjoy this pregnancy (even with all the discomforts). and i certainly had plenty of time to enjoy it (ds was two weeks late).
Originally Posted by bluepetals
I feel sad that I won't feel a baby kicking inside me anymore, but beyond that I don't think I'll miss much about being pregnant ;)
i'll definitely miss this too. i probably tend to romanticize the whole thing. forgetting what i didn't love about it.
i should probably just focus on the family i have and enjoy them (not that i don't) and accept that the childbearing years are behind me. i imagine in time it will get easier.
Originally Posted by dayiscoming2006
I thought I was done at 2. But, hubby kinda urged me to "trust God" and I was pregnant right away. I'm happy he did though as I'm so happy to have a little girl now. But, I honestly feel really done. I really don't want to go through pregnancy or birth again as they are really hard things! And I feel like I'm at a comfortable amount of kids to take care of at the moment. I can't really imagine taking care of more. I'll be homeschooling soon as well so my hands will be full. I am still young at only 25 though, so there are no guarantees and our only form of BC will be barrier method so, there's always the chance. So, though I don't plan on having any more, who knows.
Originally Posted by lava mama
This was our third, but not our last. We don't have a set limit, and we're just taking everything one child at a time. I'm only 27, so I feel like I still have quite a few child-bearing years ahead of me. It's funny, during and after the births of my first two, I thought "Never again! I'm not doing natural childbirth again!" And during this last labor, which was the hardest of the 3, I kept thinking, "I can't believe I'm going to be doing this again a few times over." Ha! DH and I are on the same page, so I'm really grateful for that. Miss Louisa's presence in our home makes me want to have a million more babies. (Okay, not a million, but maybe one or two or three more. LOL!)
you're both still young and i know that if i was 25 or 27 i definitely would be unsure about being done. whatever i may be feeling now might change in five or even ten years (with still plenty of time to have more babies). i'm just thinking that if i were to have more i'd want to start trying in the next year or two, but our situation probably won't change that much by then, so we may as well just quit while we're ahead.
Originally Posted by morganlefay
Well, I have two girls now, and intellectually (and financially) I think we should probably stop here--DH and I have discussed big plans for both of us, at some point within the next five years, going back to school, moving, and getting different jobs (though not necessarily in that order). Realistically, another baby would put a big kink in that plan--it's hard enough now with both of us working full time. Also, the baby stage is hard for me--don't get me wrong; I love my new little one enormously but I had forgotten how stressful the colic is--DD1 screamed for eight months and this one seems a little more comfortable in her own skin, but she still fusses most of the day when not sleeping or eating. In one way it would be a relief to be "done," but when i think about never being pregnant, giving birth, or watching another one grow after this one, I get really sad! I have great pregnancies and births, and finally got the homebirth of my dreams with DD2. So, I can't say for sure that this is the last one, and I know I don't have to make that decision now, but for some reason it keeps haunting me . . we'll see.
i get what you mean about how being done would be a "relief". i feel that too, although i'm still torn. why is this so hard?