Hoping to get some feedback on your experiences with the early days of breastfeeding so I can make some decisions on my breastfeeding relationship with DS.
Here's the 411--
DS is 2.5 weeks old. We've breastfeed exclusively, and it has always hurt pretty badly.
I've had lactation consultants and counselors check the latch and evaluate us. They cannot find any evidence of a bad latch, of tongue tie, nor of thrush. I've also been told I don't have mastitis, another thing that might cause bf'ing pain.
Everytime he latches on, I scream out it pain. It is excruciating. It gets a little better as he sucks, but typically, I'm gritting my teeth or crying through the whole feeding. Afterward, the breast sometimes still hurts for a little while.
We've tried all the holds- cluth, cross cradle, cradle, and biological (laid back) nursing. The latter was successful with no pain for about a day, and after that, it just, for some reason, didn't seem to *work* anymore. We had as much pain with that as with other positions.
I rub breastmilk on my nipples after each feeding, let them air dry, then slather with lanisoh. I've also tried soothies, although they stick to my nipples too much and hurt when I try to take them off.
I've had no bleeding so far.
I am getting really frustrated because I'm not sure what to do. I've read that on the one hand, bfing should never hurt, and if it does, it means we're doing something wrong. BUT, the same people who tell me that also say that it can hurt a lot in the beginning.
I'm having a lot of trouble, at this point, reconciling those two statements. How long should I put up with this pain and chalk it up to just beginning adjustment pain? At what point do I say, 'no, this still hurts and there is something wrong. i need a third and fourth opinion on things like tongue tie and thrush.'
What was your experience in the beginning? How long did it hurt? Does it get better as babe's mouth grows larger? How long would you gut it out through the pain before starting to insist that there is indeed something else wrong, even if the doctors, midwives, and LC's you've seen already say there isn't?