Yes, you coudl tell all these "mainstreamers" at MDC to go away and find themselves a mainstream board.
But the fact is, there are differences of opinion about what is "mainstream," and what constitutes "AP" and what constitutes "natural living." And invariably, people who come here for one thing (breastfeeding advice, or natural childbirth advice, or sleeping without CIO advice) run into people who have little checklists in their heads about "THE ONE WAY TO DO THIS."
So the person who wants advice on breastfeeding posts a generic question, and gets jumped on for being a big, mean, mother-led weaner. "Don't Ask Don't Refuse is a weaning technique, mama!" A person who posts about having weaned might get told that all her child's issues are due to that and she should relactate. People asking for advice on potty training get told that even their cloth diapers are abusive and REAL AP parents are all into EC now.
All these practices exist on a continuum, and it seems like often, there's a vocal minority at one end of the continuum, berating people, as though the object of being at MDC is to urge people on, like lemmings, off the edge of the world. From Breast is Best, to "Aim for 2 years," to "let them decide when to wean." From "Unmedicated labor is healthiest for the baby," to "Homebirth is the only way to have a good birth," to "Any birth attendant is unnatural!" From "Spanking is wrong," to "Timeouts are bad," to "Saying no is harmful," to "expressing any opinion on your child's behavior is manipulative behaviorism." From "public schools aren't very invidualistic," to "Homeschool so you're never separated from your kids," to "parents even suggesting books to kids destroys their intellectual development."
And there's always someone waiting in the wings to tell someone who they perceive as "behind" them on each of those paths that they're doing it wrong. A lot of people can't accept that not everyone *wants* to push every aspect of this to the ultimate limit, and that for many people, that extreme position is *not* the best for their family, health, or community.
For the record:
I mother-led weaned both my kids, one at 18 months, the second at 2.
I used a pacifier with one of my kids.
I am in love with both the concept of Free Appropriate Public Education *and* the way it is executed in my home town.
I birthed med-free in the hospital with CNMs. Despite that, I had a full-on Odent-style FER, in which my 10-pounder fell out of me in one contraction. Hah.
I vaccinate. yes, I've done the research. For real.
I think GMOs are probably going to be necessary to feed the growing world population.
My kids went to daycare and I'm not ashamed of that fact, nor do I think working is incompatible with raising attached children.