Is it weird that I'm not really crunchy or AP at all, and I don't feel unwelcome at MDC? (At least I feel un-crunchy and un-AP compared to most people here. I guess I'm actually pretty middle-of-the-road.) I'm actually just here for future reference, so maybe I'd be more sensitive if I already had kids.
It seems there are only a few "rules" for fitting in with the MDC crowd, as far as I can tell: don't physically assault your child, don't use CIO, don't amputate any of your infant's healthy body parts, give human milk if you can, rear-face the car seat, if you ever broke any of those treat it as a mistake, and use the smiley if you admit to eating at McDonald's. Homeschooling, letting your kids play with toy guns, letting your kids watch TV, giving birth at home, using a sling, eating sugar, eating meat, eating gluten, leaving your kid in a room alone with your dog, wanting your schoolkid to have homework, giving your kid such and such a vaccine, giving your kid Tylenol, taking Tylenol when in labor, etc all seem to have proponents on each side.
(My least-MDC-ish aspect is that I make video games and plan to do so for a living someday.)
Seems to sum it up pretty well, IMO!
I'll agree, and I'll take this one step farther. The point of many people on this thread is that you don't have to take everything to the Nth degree in order to *be* perfect. And perhaps, there is in fact no such thing as "perfect."
And the first boldest statement? Is what people are trying to get across. There are people here with checklists in their heads of what AP or NFL *must* include, and if you don't do it all, you should feel bad about it. Right here, in this thread, people are being told that if you don't live up to some standard of perfection, you should feel bad. You should, apparently, feel ashamed of cribs, strollers, pacifiers and public school.
Funny, I've not actually seen that instruction in Dr. Sears. Must have missed that page.
re: the part that I bolded- if this is in this thread, I must have missed it. I use a stroller, tried to use pacifiers, and use public school. I seriously didn't see anyone post anything that made me think that they think that I should feel bad about doing so. I suppose it could be that I am so comfortable with those particular choices that I don't notice criticisms of it?
Seriously, when does this happen? How can I be here 7 years with 6600 posts and never see this sort of stuff? And even if it did happen, who cares? If it doesn't bother you, then why should it matter to you if it does bother someone else? Does that judgmental person have the power to ban you? Does their opinion of you make or break your day?
I think we also have to remember that everyone has their own most important cause that maybe brought them here, or they acquired here, and we should not be shocked when other people here don't share the same devotion. That's why there are separate fora. This thread actually overlaps with the equally pleasant "Which aspect of NFL/AP is most important?" also known as "If you had to circumcise or formula-feed, which would you choose?" All these threads always go so well. So well, that we feel the need to repeat them every few months or so.
Seriously, folks, MDC is not a popularity contest, nor is it Survivor. No one is voting you off based on your list of crunchy cred. If you are tender about something you do, then don't share it online.