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I need to stop serial posting, but yeah.  It was getting kinda crazy.   I was afraid I was going to be banned soon.  My favorite spanking was for using the word ghetto to describe -- wait for it -- a ghetto neighborhood.  I meant nothing more than it was a shady area to live.  Lesson learned, though, b/c I actually understand now how it could very well be offensive, and I no longer use it IRL (ok, I'm lying here b/c I've said it to DH, but not to other people).


haha!  Me too.  We could start a whole thread called "what crazy things did the mods warn you for?" but I won't...and nobody should...because that wouldn't be very gentle.  And I am totally serious, but it would be an interesting thread.  I do appreciate the mods hard work and that things have loosened up here and am not trying to nit-pick.  But I do have PTSD from my warnings, the majority of which were really unnecessary, and would find that thread therapuetic.  I guess it is enough to know now that I wasn't the only one getting in trouble all the time! 

post #262 of 468
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haha!  Me too.  We could start a whole thread called "what crazy things did the mods warn you for?" but I won't...and nobody should...because that wouldn't be very gentle.  And I am totally serious, but it would be an interesting thread.  I do appreciate the mods hard work and that things have loosened up here and am not trying to nit-pick.  But I do have PTSD from my warnings, the majority of which were really unnecessary, and would find that thread therapuetic.  I guess it is enough to know now that I wasn't the only one getting in trouble all the time! 



I'm at least going to go back and read mine. Just to torture myself. 

post #263 of 468
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I just want to say that I think that the huge focus on UC is a result of the history of UC being a place where blatantly unsafe ideas were not allowed to be questioned.  I, for one, have posted about UC in this thread and haven't changed my posts because I don't think they are attacks, though I can see how some other posts might be viewed that way.  I'm not anti-UC at all and in general have an attitude of "to each their own" but I want to be able to say out loud that threads such as "your newborn breathing is a cultural construct" or something like that, isn't safe, without being accused of attacking UC or the poster.  If the UC forum had always been a place where people could say "umm, no, your newborn should be breathing or you should seek medical intervention", there would be a lot of us who wouldn't care to single out UC.  It isn't an attack, at least from me.  I actually care about people who might be foolish enough to think that their newborn doesn't need to be breathing and give them a heads up before they suffer a needless tragedy. 

 



Thank you. That is one of the reasons I mentioned it as well. There is a lot of dangerous advice given in that forum. Sometimes intuition just isn't enough and someone should seek medical attention, but then that wouldn't be "trusting birth".

post #264 of 468
I like pacifiers, I vaccinate, some of the toys in my house are plastic, my kids watch some TV, and they don't always eat healthy food. Though I do generally feed them in a healthy way. I just think that being relaxed about stuff probably benefits them more than, say, avoiding plastic toys, so I dont' sweat the small stuff.
post #265 of 468

Well, for kicks and so we all know each other better, here is my list:

 

Mainstream - ish:

 

I have one child in public school

I always used disposable diapers.  I use disposable pads regularly and disposable plates too.  

I loved, loved loved my stroller.  Baby wearing hurt my shoulders - always.

I like food of all kinds -including junk food.  I try for moderation, but that does not always happen.  We hit fast food about every 2 weeks.

We own 2 cars.

Not judging - but family cloth squiggs me out a bit.  More power to you if it works for you - I am not trying it.

I have had 2 hospital births

I did not even try to cure cavities through food.  

 

Now, as I am too lazy to go to the other thread:

 

I co slept and breast fed until 2-3ish.  

I homeschool some of my kids - really loosely

I am a gal who knows my herbs

I let (gasp!) my 12 year old be vegan - not that I could stop her.  

I do not vax.

 

I have no issues with the existence of either thread.  Both have a place and could have been fun!  I wish we could all sit around and sing kumbaya (my crunchy list) instead of fighting.

 

 With regards to the current anger on MDC:  I hope some good comes out of this, and that eveyone feels the cards are on the table and we can move forward in a positive manner.

 

post #266 of 468
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Why would this thread need to be locked? 
 

 


I have two things to say on this.

1. This whole 'say whatever in the world floats through your brain with zero consequences from moderation' is very new and not appreciated by all the members.  This sort of thread would not have existed before the UA change.

2.  Don't act like your clueless as to the direction that this thread has taken.


 

 

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I>2.  Don't act like your clueless as to the direction that this thread has taken.


 

 


Isn't this the same kind of snark that you're objecting to? Under the old UA, you'd be asked to edit this, and maybe even receive a warning about it.
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How is it snarky?

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I>2.  Don't act like your clueless as to the direction that this thread has taken.


 

 




Isn't this the same kind of snark that you're objecting to? Under the old UA, you'd be asked to edit this, and maybe even receive a warning about it.


 

post #269 of 468
You took what seemed to me to be an honest question by a PP and took issue with it by casting aspersions on the pp as to her motives for asking the question. You, essentially, accused her of playing dumb. I, also, don't know why this thread would need to be locked.
post #270 of 468
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How is it snarky?



 



How is it not snarky? Dude, if you're going to snark on someone and belittle their parenting experiences, don't hide behind an air of "well, I didn't mean it that way". Just own it.

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How is it snarky?

 

 

 

 

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2.  Don't act like your clueless...

 

 

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post #272 of 468
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Originally Posted by Drummer's Wife View Post

Why would it matter what anyone else thinks?  If I'm confident in unschooling or unassisted childbirth (okay, not me b/c my kids go to school and were cut out of me), then someone saying either of these are a bad decision shouldn't get under my skin.  Unless if course, their reasonig makes sense on some level and causes me to rethink my position.  In the end, I still may decide that birthing at home alone is best *for me* -- all debate aside.  

No one is threatening those who use family cloth by saying it seems gross and they prefer flushable toilet paper.  To each their own, people!


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I have not read the whole thread. But I totally agree with this. If we are confident in the choices we make for our family's it should not matter other peoples options. I think it is the people who are not 100% sure in the choices they have made. I don't pretend to be someone I am not on here and actually like this thread. I read so many of the lists people put up thinking to myself yep thats me! lol 

 

 

 

 

post #273 of 468
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Don't forget a lot of people are hardcore crunchy out of necessity! We hardcore FC b/c well frankly we can't waste the $ on TP and we always use CD for the same reason (even on sleepovers).

 

Also if my DD would actually sit in a stroller I would use one.

 


I agree! We recycle because we have to pay 2$ per bag of garbage and I am cheap. FC for the same reason, cloth diapers, same reason, diva cup, same reason. Anything I can not have to waste precious limited money on is great. I don't care "how crunchy" I am. 

 

post #274 of 468
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How is it not snarky? Dude, if you're going to snark on someone and belittle their parenting experiences, don't hide behind an air of "well, I didn't mean it that way". Just own it.


I wasn't being snarky, I'm pretty sure I was very clear in my feelings about that comment, no veiled contempt here ladies.
 

 

post #275 of 468
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I wasn't being snarky, I'm pretty sure I was very clear in my feelings about that comment, no veiled contempt here ladies.
 

 


Well, if you're not even bothering to veil it, then it certainly wouldn't have passed the old UA. And I'm cool with that, really - it's good to know where people stand. But if you're arguing for more moderation and more civility, it seems pretty hypocritical to to be openly contemptuous to a poster who merely asked for clarification of something you said. (And, ftr snarky is not equal to veiled. One can be openly snarky, like you were.)
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Edited by riverscout - 6/21/11 at 10:36am
post #277 of 468

It's almost like the people horribly offended by this thread have no power to turn away from it and stop posting...oh wait they do, they just love the drama as much as the next personeyesroll.gif

post #278 of 468
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It's almost like the people horribly offended by this thread have no power to turn away from it and stop posting...oh wait they do, they just love the drama as much as the next personeyesroll.gif



I am not offended by this thread, but.....

 

Are we supposed to turn away from threads that offend us?  How is that the open discussion many posters want?

 

You know this is your 18th post on this thread?  I think you love drama, too.

 

Kathy

 

post #279 of 468
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I am not offended by this thread, but.....

 

Are we supposed to turn away from threads that offend us?  How is that the open discussion many posters want?

 

You know this is your 18th post on this thread?  I think you love drama, too.

 

Kathy

 


Clearly I do, but I'm not bemoaning how awful this thread is. I find it interesting and entertaining. 

 

Uh yeah if something offends you so badly isn't the general rule to turn away from it. There can be open conversation with those who disagree but many posters who are offended have said that this thread should be closed...How about just not look at it?! Then it won't even exist to you, but like I said we all love drama, I'm not denying I like it too.

 

post #280 of 468

You go onto threads you know do not appeal to you and post pot-stirring comments  (example - "list the ways you are crunchy" thread).  I simply do not understand why you then expect posters to stay away from this one if it doesn't appeal to them.

 

What is good for the goose is good for the gander and all that.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 
 

Edited by purslaine - 6/16/11 at 7:11am
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