I'm posting this here, but really it's a thought that's been running through my mind ever since the huge trolls thread, and through several others running alongside this thread...
I get the whole backlash against being made to feel not crunchy enough or too crunchy. When DD grew out of her little baby bucket carseat, the research I did on MDC made me feel like I NEEDED to buy some super expensive Britax (the one with the cow cover). And because we are a 2 car family (we-gasp-both work outside the home and both contribute to the daycare pick ups and drop offs) we would actually need to buy TWO of these carseats. I honestly cried at one point because I got the impression that I was a bad mom for not being able to afford this carseat for my child.
However- and maybe it's because I've grown as a parent, or maybe it's just a natural result from reading more and more on MDC, but I've come to realize that we (MDC posters) are not experts, or even people who have our own lives together. And, quite honestly, a lot of people who I have come to recognize from multiple posts, aren't people who I would take any advice from in real life. Does that make sense? That I can read something that a poster writes, find them quite intelligent- someone whose opinions I should hold in high regard- but then I read more and more of what that poster writes, and then something comes out that is just way opposite of what I find intelligent or whatever. And then it just hits you: why on Earth am I listening to this woman's opinions on working mothers (fill in the blank with your own topic) when she has admitted that she kicks her dog 10 times a day and eats moldy hot dogs (just as an entirely fictional example).
I know I'm not getting my point across clearly- I guess I'm just trying to say that before you take offense to anything someone says about your own decisions/choices/life, please stop and remember that chances are this person has their own crazy baggage that prevents them from really being in a position to judge you. Put on your filter, take what you want to hear, what sounds reasonable to you, and dismiss the rest as just opinions from people whose opinions don't matter to you. Sorry for the awkward phrasing.
And, back to the original topic, I think the "what makes you crunchy?" and "what makes you un-crunchy?" threads should be combined. Because honestly, there is no one in this world that is all one or all the other. For me:
- hospital birth, with epidural attended by a CNM.
- breastfed to 2.5 years
- pumped twice a day at work to provide bottled milk to daycare, other than that, strictly boob
- work 10 months a year outside the home (in a public school, no less)
- that means DD attends daycare 10 months a year
- fully vaxed, slightly delayed schedule
- vegetarian, mostly organic
- started out cloth diapering, switched to disposables around 1 year
- lots of natural "Waldorf-style" toys
- lots of the other kinds of toys too
- always coslept, although what that looks like now is DD hangs out in my bed for stories and cuddles, then flops down in the little bed pushed up to the big bed when she's ready to sleep- and after the dust settles from our upcoming move, we're going to try to get her in her own room, at least part time
- wore her in slings and the Ergo a TON, until she didn't want to anymore
- oh and as for as the "green" factor I am actually pretty big into all of that, but I've just naturally been like that since I was a little girl, so I don't really give it much thought
I'm sure there's more, but this has already turned into my longest post ever