Originally Posted by chaoticzenmom
Do you realize that you contradicted yourself here? You're absolutely doing the right thing by not saying something to parents of obese children about what they're feeding their children. Would you even notice what a thin child was eating? Since you have loved ones that are obese, you might like this blog http://shakespearessister.blogspot.com/2010/10/discussion-thread-i-was-fat-shamed.html
What struck me is exactly what you said...an obese child with a soda and a pop...you feel you should say something. You didn't just say a child. I doubt that anyone would ever even notice what my thin children are eating or drinking in public. It's something that most people would do without even realizing it, I've just been reading about it lately, so I'm becoming newly aware of this issue. Try not to get lost in that blog..it's hard to stop reading.
First, thanks for the blog link, I'll have to check it out.
However, I don't really see how I contradicted myself...
I feel like overall, in parenthood we face a lot of judgement, especially from other mothers. I had been in the habit of trying to live up to some hypothetical "standard" that over time just didn't mesh with my family or our lifestyle, finances and so forth. Over time and with some searching, I feel like we are working more toward our own ideal rather than someone else's. That's basically what I meant by my first statement.
When it comes to judging others, I don't think I am innocent by any means. We are all guilty of passing judgement at one time or another. I realize that is what I am doing when I look at my parents or other families choosing what they do. The judgement against my parents' choices are the main reason I make the dietary/lifestyle choices that I do. But I disagree with the notion that no one should say anything. I don't think I have any right or position to but things DO need to change. Doctor's and other care providers need to stop brushing childhood obesity under the rug. School lunches and the marketing of unhealthy foods to children need to change. It is not just overweight or obese children who are suffering either. I do notice what thin children are eating too, and feel am pleased to see when it is "real" food. Poor health isn't only going to manifest itself as excess weight and I think it is sad that the overall health of children is at stake. Physical and mental health. I have a sister who is six years old and she is becoming very aware of what she eats in a way no 6 yo should. At six she is afraid of eating foods that will "make her fat". I don't see her often enough to no if she is truly obsessing over it but she has made several comments that do worry me.
I guess I just feel like we have a responsibility as parents to ensure our child's well-being and nutrition is definitely a factor in that. A piece of cake or some other treat every now and then isn't a bad thing at all. It is bad when a child's diet consists of nothing but, for lack of better word, crap.
(I'm kind of rambling now, aren't I? I hope this all makes sense.)