I shared some of this on an earlier thread.
These are all from my dad, a papa to SIX kids.
We are expecting our 5th. ;)
I feel bad for him.
When he heard from my cousin, who I am very open with, that we may try for another:
"I have to say honey, I almost screamed "NO"...but just said "Oh"......"
" the dynamic of one new one will throw the balance off and at least one of the older ones will suffer....I don't know which for sure,"
"They will all need clothes, food, braces and other dental care, doctors, cars. college tuition support, just an amazing maze of things as they grow older which you cannot even imagine right now....even sleeping space when their bodies and individualism are 10 years older than right now will be a challenge at least. And, God forbid something happens to you, or Josh or one of them or if a new baby is not perfect in every way health wise....what would you do?"
Part of my response:
"Regarding having another baby... Daddy, I do not operate out of fear. I am not afraid of "what might happen" to our older children if we have another baby, I am not worried about having space and money for their future and I am not worried about the health of a new baby. I believe that my God is SO much bigger than all of those concerns and that HE will provide for all of our needs and that He has created each and every one of our children in His perfect timing and each of them has been a huge blessing to our family!
Do you think Kevin, Erik, or Josh "suffered" when Annie was born? And in what way? I am asking that honestly..." Talking about my siblings there...
"Christy asks me every week if we are going to have another baby. The relationship between Sarah and Isaac is priceless! They are less and less selfish everyday because it takes work to run this large household and the two older girls are responsible for a lot of it! ;)"
And his reply to my thoughts
"regards Annie as the last one, we had a solid career and insurance....I guess that is the only answer I can give you"
So, it is all really about money for my dad. You know, if we all waited until we were independently wealthy to have babies, would any of us ever do it!?
UGH, I am getting cranky reading his emails again. LOL. Oh well!
ALL of my friends have been incredibly supportive of this pregnancy, thank goodness. My poor dad is just so afraid of life. :(