Hubs and I keep doing what works best for all of us at the time, which repeatedly lands us right on the middle. For example, I don't find it horribly convenient (or a very good idea) to have baby in her sling while I'm scrubbing the sweet merciful you-know-what out of my shower with the chemical cocktail that I do my best not to breathe too much of and wash off before picking her up again. But while we're walking to the store for dried beans and all the other healthful foods I cram down our faces, why wouldn't I want her as close to me as possible?
I'm exclusively breast-feeding, and will continue to do so until 6 mos. minimum, at which point I'll introduce some organic veggies and maybe meats. Grains will be later, and whole. She'll eat what we eat, because I make sure what we eat is as healthful as we can afford. We bed-share. She won't be crying anything out any time soon. (I cannot promise I will not allow her to cry-it-out as a teenager. Heh.) We would like to cloth diaper, but I am still struggling with that. We own one car, intentionally, because we are three people and although we live in the sprawling 'burbs and cannot be without one car, we cannot, at this time, justify two, no matter how inconvenient it is for us. We like our planet enough to share a sub-compact. I do recycle. Now that we own a backyard I'll be getting back to composting and growing some of our own food... and perhaps some canning!
But we own a bouncy chair, the tricked-out three stage stroller with MP3 player, a swing, a gym, a bumbo... you get the picture. Her toys are plastic. I do not purchase the "all-natural" soaps and detergents... I use the free/clear "mainstream" stuff. She will have all the vaccinations. Each and every last one. She will attend a public school, where she will be expected to do her best in her classes as well as her after-school activity of choice.
We do our best to make mindful choices. Hello, middle!