I have one UC under my belt and would love another one, but our new house is now in the country - VERY far from the hospital - about 45 min to an hour depending on traffic.
I cannot stand anyone around me during birth, but after my last birth, I was in a bit of a daze. My husband isn't mentally capable of handling problems and I have a 3yo now. I don't feel comfortable having a total UC this far from the hospital because it would be total chaos at our house if there was even a minor upset.
I was considering getting my midwife to attend my birth, but not assist. I would like her to stay at our house just in case we have issues I'm not able to deal with but I don't want her in the room with me. She would be our backup. If we need hospital transfer, she can take my daughter and my husband can go with me to the hospital in an ambulance. (We live right down the street from the ambulance dispatch office.) I had my midwife for my prenatal care with my last pregnancy and she is really wonderful.
Has anyone done anything like this? She would be more than happy to just nap on the couch while I take care of my own business and leave if everything is fine. If you had an attended unassisted birth, how did you feel about it? Did it bother you to have someone waiting in the next room? Did it affect your ability to give birth the way you wanted to?
Getting a hotel or motel in town for the birth is not an option for us and I hate traveling in a car with a new baby.