Hi Mamas. Oh boy. Where to begin?
My almost six year old dd and I have had a really good relationship until the beginning of the school year last year. I don't know if the events are connected or coincidental, but she was bullied pretty badly by a new girl in her class and really, really was struggling. The girl left town in January and things improved at school, but at home, things haven't gotten any better.
In a nutshell, she just doesn't listen. She wants to either negotiate things to death or she completely ignores me. It makes me feel totally disrespected.
So, I'm a pretty experienced mama and a human service professional. I've appealed to her sense of relationship - how we each have to do our part to have a good, happy relationship. How when you live in community everyone has to do their part - just like in school. But, it seems we are always in conflict. I really do not want to go the way of punishments, but I'm not opposed to being the B-word in her life if that's what it takes. I just don't want to "lose her" along the way.
Of course, I hope it passes, but I suspect it won't. She's a pretty intense child, but very loving, creative and bright. She plays pretty well with her brother and is close to her older sister. I do carve out time just for her and so does her papa.
Any suggestions - including reading material - is greatly appreciated!