I had to go away for a few days b/c the negativity was wearing me down. I am on another board (not a parenting one) and apparently they had a very similar drama a few months ago, and the way they handled it was by posting a thread in their version of TAO that said this:
-We (the mods) are human volunteers. We are not "The Man."
-Our #1 rule is to be nice to each other. Unkindness will be modded away.
-Trolling happens. We'll mod it away.
They let this thread go on for about a 100 pages and then they closed it.
I voted that there needs to be a balance between the old over-moderation and the current free-for-all. I think the #1 rule of any UA should be "Be kind." The #2 rule should be "Own your $hit. Discussion of a topic that upsets you should probably be avoided."
[Finally, I don't have any technical problems with the board at all. I like it and it is quick for me. I also don't see any ads so I can't comment there.]
I think discussing topics that upset you is one of the best ways to work through those things, come to new conclusions, perhaps come to consensus. Passion and movement for positive change often comes from a place of upset/hurt and avoiding those topics could stunt that positive change.
I agree, but only if you are ready to deal with it from a place of honesty and openness and willingness. That is a rare place that requires a lot of courage.