Moderation of MDC - What do you think? - Page 25

[Bena]

yea!  Now I get what a troll is!!

[QueenOfTheMeadow]

Originally Posted by Bena 

This exactly.

Divergent opinions are ok.  Name calling is NOT ok.

If we don`t accept our children to treat eachother that way, then we shouldn`t accept adults to do the same.

I'll third that!

[2xy]

Originally Posted by Bena 

yea!  Now I get what a troll is!!

Actually....quite some time ago, I got a mod-spank for referring to someone as a troll because....it's namecalling.

So what do y'all think? Was my previous post as offensive as the cry-baby/loser post?

[ctyankee]

I didn't call anyone a crybaby, I was referring to classes of posters that are being moderated using one-size-fits-few rules.

[ctyankee]

What am I doing in this forum? -- I answered that previously in another post.  If my input is unwelcome then please ask the system mod to remove my e-mail from the auto notification list.  I joined in 2007 and if memory serves my opinions were too powerful for folks to handle then too.

Have a wonderful evening!

[ctyankee]

Originally Posted by Bena 

This exactly.

Divergent opinions are ok.  Name calling is NOT ok.

If we don`t accept our children to treat eachother that way, then we shouldn`t accept adults to do the same.

I just want to be clear; I *rarely* if ever resort to "name-calling" -- What I do do it to summarize an incorrect statement that someone makes and, tell them in the first person. e.g. "You inferred I resorted to name calling in the italicized text above."

I make statements like that unashamedly, and frequently.

Regarding the multiple assertion by others that I am a troll -- well that's just water off of my back.

In this thread I began with a response to a home page poll about moderation; 'in general'.  The title "Moderation on MDC - What do you think?" seemed like an invitation to comment -- I took it as such.  No one in particular was targeted by my comments.  If my comments hit a nerve with any readers... well... 'nuf said.

In another thread someone took offense that I complimented a regular poster at the expense of the OP on that thread.  When someone starts a thread on a public board, I assume it is to collect opinions on the topic.  If the OP was only hunting for comfort and acceptance, devoid of variations of opinion she should have sought counsel from a priest, not a web board.  The OP wasn't even the one who expressed dissatisfaction with my post...

If there is one think that I have to admit failing to remember, it's that I always assume that adults are mature individuals that understand the truth may not always be pleasant, but it's still true, and that my children routinely demonstrate maturity that I'm probably unwise to expect from the general public.

Have a wonderful evening!

[Honey693]

Is anyone else wondering if Peggy and Cynthia are ignoring this thread b/c they're hoping if they don't post we'll lose interest?  For awhile there Cynthia was posting a few times a page.  Now nothing.

[QueenOfTheMeadow]

Originally Posted by Honey693 

Is anyone else wondering if Peggy and Cynthia are ignoring this thread b/c they're hoping if they don't post we'll lose interest?  For awhile there Cynthia was posting a few times a page.  Now nothing.

I know I'm not Peggy or Cynthia, but I'm still reading. I think it's an important conversation and one that would never have taken place a year ago. People need to have their say and the poll is definately being watched. I haven't seen a change between 1 or so percentages for awhile. Are there questions you have that haven't been addressed yet?

[Ansley]

I've posted a new thread twice, yet just tried to do a third and a message popped up saying "since you are new here, your post is being held for moderation." I am guessing it is because of my first one which didn't go well AT ALL and got deleted when all I did was ask for advice. But wouldn't that message have been more beneficial had MDC done that the first time I had posted something (even though I still see nothing wrong with anything I said!).  I was allowed to do a second thread with no problem. My third? No. This just makes me dislike this place even more. Moderation is great, but only when it is done correctly! 

[DaughterOfKali]

I think there should be a happy medium.  Not a free for all but not heavy handed moderation.

[princesstutu]

Don't we still have the option to report individual posts?

If a person thinks that someone posted something that is simply mean and cruel (namecalling, etc.), then the person has the option of reporting the post. 

We don't need whole forums to be moderated and whole threads shut down just because a poster gets passionate about something.  Offense is subjective, as is respect, and I don't need anyone else telling me what I should be offended by or what I should find disrespectful.  I had a childhood and I'm glad those days are behind me!

There is no one truth out there.  The best way I've found to know what I believe in is to see the contrast and think about my values.  If life is not black and white, but grey, then we must remember that there are many shades of grey.  And, that is why it's important to be able to discuss (ad nauseum at times) subjects and ideas from many various viewpoints. 

While I strive to be as compassionate and kind as possible, I also recognize that other people's feelings are not my responsibility.  It is an important part of growth to be able to peacefully move through the "lesser" behaviors and attitudes that are rooted in fear, anger, and sadness. And, how can we learn to do that without opportunities to practice it? Even online.  I accept that not everyone is in the same place (emotionally, mentally, spiritually) as I am and that is okay.  I don't need MDC moderators to protect me from the real world.  After all, I exist outside of Mothering forums.  I have not become a recluse and don't aspire toward it. 

I welcome the opportunity to practice the beliefs I say I hold.  If that means I will sometimes encounter angry folks, that's okay.  I sometimes feel angry, too, so I understand.  Another person's anger is not my problem,but my decision to engage that angry person or take that anger personal may be. 

Obviously, I voted that the current moderation level is fine. 

However, I have noted that there is still the overhanded moderation involved when questions are raised that MDC staff does not want to address.  This is a problem, IMO. 

[chaoticzenmom]

Originally Posted by Ansley 

I've posted a new thread twice, yet just tried to do a third and a message popped up saying "since you are new here, your post is being held for moderation." I am guessing it is because of my first one which didn't go well AT ALL and got deleted when all I did was ask for advice. But wouldn't that message have been more beneficial had MDC done that the first time I had posted something (even though I still see nothing wrong with anything I said!).  I was allowed to do a second thread with no problem. My third? No. This just makes me dislike this place even more. Moderation is great, but only when it is done correctly! 

Your thread is open now.  Ansley, you have been given a rough beginning.  So sorry for that.  It's because you joined at a strange time and things are calming down now.  Welcome to MDC!  I hope the rest of your time here is better

[Kerynna]

Originally Posted by Ansley 

I've posted a new thread twice, yet just tried to do a third and a message popped up saying "since you are new here, your post is being held for moderation." I am guessing it is because of my first one which didn't go well AT ALL and got deleted when all I did was ask for advice. But wouldn't that message have been more beneficial had MDC done that the first time I had posted something (even though I still see nothing wrong with anything I said!).  I was allowed to do a second thread with no problem. My third? No. This just makes me dislike this place even more. Moderation is great, but only when it is done correctly! 

Originally Posted by chaoticzenmom 

Your thread is open now.  Ansley, you have been given a rough beginning.  So sorry for that.  It's because you joined at a strange time and things are calming down now.  Welcome to MDC!  I hope the rest of your time here is better

Hmmmmm .....

[chaoticzenmom]

Originally Posted by Kerynna 

Hmmmmm .....

? Is that a "hmmm, I didn't get a welcome smiley when I complained about my defensio problem."  Or a "hmmm, she's full of it and Defensio is still holding all of my posts."  Or a "hmmm, maybe I'll stick around for awhile, this place isn't so bad."  In any case

[Ansley]

Originally Posted by Kerynna 

Hmmmmm .....

For real, what's the hmmmm for?

[Kerynna]

It was a 'hmmm, good to know I'm not alone in having this happen" kind of hmmmm.

[aweynsayl]

i didnt vote, because i've essentially already left mdc for other reasons, but if i hadnt, or if i wasnt quite sure, the... situation here now would confirm my notion that it's no longer a place i care to be. which isnt to say it's "wrong"... just not comfortable for me, personally. best of luck to all who do remain!

[Honey693]

Originally Posted by QueenOfTheMeadow 

Originally Posted by Honey693 

Is anyone else wondering if Peggy and Cynthia are ignoring this thread b/c they're hoping if they don't post we'll lose interest?  For awhile there Cynthia was posting a few times a page.  Now nothing.

I know I'm not Peggy or Cynthia, but I'm still reading. I think it's an important conversation and one that would never have taken place a year ago. People need to have their say and the poll is definately being watched. I haven't seen a change between 1 or so percentages for awhile. Are there questions you have that haven't been addressed yet?

There are a lot of unanswered questions, most pressing is will MDC offer an official, public apology (not one post on a hidden  thread) for the Pat Roberston thing?  People have been asking and asking and they just keep getting told that issue has been addressed, even though no one can link to that answer.

[lolar2]

Originally Posted by Kerynna 

It was a 'hmmm, good to know I'm not alone in having this happen" kind of hmmmm.

Cynthia has said several times that it is a software glitch that happens sometimes but not  always.

[QueenOfTheMeadow]

Originally Posted by Honey693 

There are a lot of unanswered questions, most pressing is will MDC offer an official, public apology (not one post on a hidden  thread) for the Pat Roberston thing?  People have been asking and asking and they just keep getting told that issue has been addressed, even though no one can link to that answer.

Yeah, that's a good question and one that I'm not sure of. I honestly wish I could give you a better answer to that question, unfortunately it's not in the moderator's hands. I know it's not worth much, but I'm really sorry that happened. I know it was a big big mistake.