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The 41+ week thread

post #1 of 63
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Anyone else 41 weeks or more? I'm 41w1d today.

 

What are you doing to stay sane?

post #2 of 63

 I'm 41+1 today, too! I don't know if I have been staying sane. I spend a lot of time overanalyzing every twinge in my body. When I'm not doing that, my brain's default-coping setting has been, "Well, we missed all our dates, so I guess we're not having a baby afterall." Totally weird! I know that's not the case, but I feel like I have to remind myself that yes, baby is, in fact, still on the way. I'm a first-timer so I really have no conception of what's about to happen.

 

Good luck to you. Maybe the full moon tonight will pull these nuggets out of us!

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 I'm 41+1 today, too! I don't know if I have been staying sane. I spend a lot of time overanalyzing every twinge in my body. When I'm not doing that, my brain's default-coping setting has been, "Well, we missed all our dates, so I guess we're not having a baby afterall." Totally weird! I know that's not the case, but I feel like I have to remind myself that yes, baby is, in fact, still on the way. I'm a first-timer so I really have no conception of what's about to happen.

 

Good luck to you. Maybe the full moon tonight will pull these nuggets out of us!


I feel the exact same way!

 

 

post #4 of 63

I am 41wks today. I am going crazy. I was induced with my first at 41+1 so I keep reminding myself that last time I didn't have a baby at this point either. Oh, and I am also not dilated or effaced in any way. I have also had no contractions. Sweet. I had an u/s yesterday and everything looks perfect. He's still happy in there I guess. My midwife scheduled me for induction on Monday saying that I need the mental reassurance that it is going to happen. And then assured my I'd go into labor this weekend. Acupuncture today. Another u/s on Friday.

 

The hardest part is the peanut gallery. All of my neighbors are bugging me and wondering why I wasn't induced a week ago. Hearing other people talk about how they went into labor at 38 weeks is annoying. It's just hard being a spectacle and having to answer the same question over and over.

 

I am literally going to howl at the moon tonight.

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Does it help to know that a study showed 41 +1 as the most common time to have a baby if you're not induced? They talked a bit about that in our Bradley class and it reassured me when I went to 41 +2 with DS. With this baby, I'm just assuming it'll be 42, so I don't even feel antsy, now, at 39. Have you guys tried talking to baby? Visualizing?

post #6 of 63

I'll be 41w on Friday. 

 

I've talked and visualised until I couldn't stand it. I've dutifully practiced with the Hypnobabies Come Out track. Nothing. Nearly no prodromal labour which is my usual way of things. I've held my daughter and did the mourning cry of letting her go as my youngest. I've taken Birth Prep since 34w, EPO and borage, intercourse and orgasms neveryoumind the hundred phone calls and emails I get everyday, the public spectacle I've become. My last two were born at 41w2d which is Sunday for me. I'm ok with that I guess. I guess. What else is there to do? Solstice baby? No thanks. 

 

 

post #7 of 63

So glad to see this thread , I'm starting to freak out !  I was due the 5th ( and I know when I concieved , so it's accurate  ) and so afraid of medical intervention.... on the flip side, I'm worried about making the wrong choice and accepting that sometimes mother nature does screw up.  

post #8 of 63

Heidi, I utterly and totally agree with you. I hate making this decision!

post #9 of 63

I'm 41 weeks today. Had bloody show this morning, so I'm really hoping today is it - particularly because tomorrow's my birthday and I don't want to share. :p I know bloody show doesn't guarantee labour within a specific timeframe... still, it's nice to feel that something's happening. So I'm going to spend today washing my hair, tidying up and otherwise puttering around getting ready, just in case.

 

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Does it help to know that a study showed 41 +1 as the most common time to have a baby if you're not induced?

Are you sure about that? I've read that for first babies, 9 or 10 days after the EDD is the average, but for multiparas it's more like 3 days after the EDD. I came across a study on it yesterday, online.

post #10 of 63

partytime.gifHappy almost birthday to you and baby!partytime.gif

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Yes apparently the more accurate calculation is LMP - 3 months + 15 days for primiparous caucasian women (10 days for non-caucasian I believe?) and +3 days for multips. These are all just averages though! 

 

Lots of interesting info here: http://www.gentlebirth.org/archives/dueDates.html
 

Sometimes I think they should just do away with the EDD altogether...although then we would probably go batty with nothing to plan around or tell people!!

 

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Are you sure about that? I've read that for first babies, 9 or 10 days after the EDD is the average, but for multiparas it's more like 3 days after the EDD. I came across a study on it yesterday, online.



 

post #12 of 63

And ditto!
 

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partytime.gifHappy almost birthday to you and baby!partytime.gif



 

post #13 of 63

Just saw this nifty post on the topic today on someone's FB http://www.ecobabyoutlet.com/category-s/198.htm  Smokering, you're right, that is for first baby.

post #14 of 63

Post dates stinks. What will you ladies miss about being pregnant? 

 

Right now I'm having a difficult time feeling baby centered and can't say I'll miss feeling him moving and such lovely things BUT I will miss the lush, pregnant hair (especially once it starts falling out postpartum) and the always clear skin. I'll also miss - to an extent - my ripe and taut tummy. I think it's a very foxy look for me redface.gif

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I honestly can't think of a single thing I'll miss about being pregnant. I don't do the dewy-skinned glowing-bellied earth mother thing, I just creak and faint. Not the pleasantest way to spend nine months! Of course, being cynical, if I have a terrible newborn who never sleeps, well, I might feel like I've downgraded my station in life a bit. :p But I don't think that counts as missing pregnancy... just not liking the newborn all-night nursing sessions.

 

Yep, feeling real poetical today!

 

Thanks for the birthday wishes! Unfortunately it doesn't look like we'll be doing much of note tomorrow, beyond me hoping not to go into labour. DH told me proudly that he just bought me a birthday present online - which is sweet, but I doubt it'll arrive by tomorrow - and we're supposed to be going to a cafe for lunch with my family, but not until Saturday (and not at all, I guess, if I give birth before then!). So, yeah. We'll be having roast chicken and chocolate mousse for dessert, and watching the recent Star Trek movie... which is nice... but it won't be the funnest birthday ever. Oh well! Don't mind me, I'm just in a quietly foul mood with life in general... and wondering if that's a sign of incipient labour. :p

post #16 of 63

I'm 41 wks tomorrow.  Had 8 rounds of acupuncture, 3 rounds of homeopathic inducement and nothing.  The acupuncturist has never had a baby resist the contraction inducements before so I can't wait to meet the fireball inside who knows what she wants when she wants it!  
 

I was 2 wks early with my DD and 41+1 with DS.  I hate being overdue! All of a sudden its now a uterine death trap - "let's check your levels, go to the hospital for NST, yadda yadda yadda"  Where was my laidback midwife of last week? Geesh! 

 

Oh and DH is gone at a course until Friday night.  

 

I like the idea to howl at the moon tonight!! lol!  Naked!

 

 

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Acupuncture today. 

 

I am literally going to howl at the moon tonight.


 

 

post #17 of 63
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41w2d today.

 

I've been really relaxed up until now, but today I'm feeling incredibly over it. I feel like my body is never going to go into labor by itself. I've tried pretty much every home induction technique short of castor oil, and at best I get one or two piddling contractions.

 

I just don't understand why nothing's happening! I've been having contractions for weeks, baby's been engaged for weeks. What exactly is the hold up??

 

I'm also freaking out a little because tomorrow is a major national holiday (like our 4th of July) which means everywhere is going to be understaffed.

 

Oh yeah and my mother is arriving from the other side of the world in under 48 hours and we need to somehow transport her home from the airport and get her into her apartment while I'm either in labour, close to it, or have a day old baby.

 

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post #18 of 63

Oh Snowflake, that sounds so rough. 41w2d is my coocoo bananas cutoff because it's the date labour began with my last two. After that, forget it. 

 

I'm not yet in the 41st week - I have until midnight for that. Today I was incredibly, terribly exhausted. I tried to nap when I put the little one down but my 4 and 7yo's were animals and it was more mental torture than restful. I'm sure some of it is me, I know I'm cranky and have a short fuse, but come on! I cried a lot because I feel physically and emotionally defeated. I'll lose my HB in a week. Tomorrow I have a NST scheduled and Monday is the BPP. I feel like they're let's-find-a-reason-to-induce tests. I think I'll reschedule the NST and give myself the weekend - I'd have to bring three kids to it anyway. My 20mo is currently trying to beautify my hair with a brush meant for dishes. On the upside (maybe) (it's not impossible) I've had a fair amount of contractions today. I'm hoping I can be awake enough when my SO gets home at some awful hour to make love - which I am not in the mood for - and hopefully birth the baby by the weekend. Also, I'm putting these kids to bed early. etc etc etc with the whinging.    

post #19 of 63
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Yep, (well, yesterday...it's 1am here) was definitely the cut-off for me too. The shift in my mood since just a couple of days ago has been drastic.

 

I need to find my happy place again. I'm flailing about feeling like this will never end, but if I stop and think rationally for just a moment I remember that I'll be induced by 42 weeks anyway, so at most I have 4 days to go. I've waited more than 9 months, I can survive 4 days, right?? Not that I'm thrilled at the prospect of being induced, but at this point I'm relieved just to have an end-point in sight. If anything happens before then, it's a bonus.

 

I had my membranes swept today. That was 12 hours ago and I haven't felt anything, so I guess it didn't do much.

post #20 of 63

Snowflake, sorry to hear you're feeling a drop in your mood, I'm right there with you! 

 

Not sure where in the world you are, but I'll be looking at a hospital induction too if I can't move this little man out of his comfy place by next Saturday! Like you say, what's one week when you've been pregnant all this time...but don't these days just seem like the longest?! 

 

I'm having a sweep today also, but since I've felt nothing up to now I'm not totally hopeful! irked.gif

 

Kawa, I hope your contractions are a sign of something exciting! I haven't laughed much the last few days but the image of your LO brushing your hair with a dish brush certainly made me giggle! orngbiggrin.gif

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