I'm starting this thread in an attempt to put a more positive spin on the anti-crunchy and anti-mainstream threads.
The reason I got upset by the other thread "You might not be mainstream if..." is that the first post said something like, "My son doesn't think that babies come from hospitals." Therefore, if your baby came from a hospital, you are mainstream. This sentiment is expressed again and again in many posts, such as the other one that upset me about baby bottles not being welcome in someone's house. When I express a difference in my experience, I get, "Well, nobody's perfect."
BUT, I overreacted. You see, I WANT my son to know that babies come into the world in a variety of ways from a variety of places. That's my choice. My birth did not feel like a "choice" to me (it was to save my son's life), but how I choose to view it IS a choice.
I think the other reaction thread has gotten too nasty. I'm trying to articulate what I think causes a lot of hard feelings on both sides. I think some of it has to do with pride.
See, before I had my emergency c-section, I KNEW I would have a homebirth. And to be honest with you, I secretly judged women who had c-sections, thinking, they must have done SOMETHING. Now I know better. I have been humbled.
I have been humbled by an emergency c-section.
I have been humbled by the nurse who helped me nurse my son for the first time.
I have been humbled by having to pump and give a bottle to my son at five weeks.
I have been humbled by having to push my son in a stroller when my c-section scar wouldn't heal properly.
I have been humbled by having to buy non-organic products because I can't always afford the organic ones.
I have been humbled by my son, who adores some of his plastic toys so much I couldn't bear to take them away.
I have been humbled by my son, who refuses to talk or potty learn, but strokes my arm when I'm upset.
These things have made my less judgmental, and more compassionate, toward what so many parents, mainstream and crunchy, have to go through.
What have you been humbled by?