Here is the set-up:
I have twin DDs - age 5. Neither formally identified as GT. Fall Birthday.
DD1 : has mild special needs (physical in nature- not toilet trained) that could be a potentially massive social implications but unlikely to be solved in a year or two. She is a leader to her peers. Reading fluently- approx early 3rd level depending on the text. Writing complete sentences/stories with fairly accurate spelling. Math has scatter skills, since she has little interest- but can +/- single digit numbers mentally, read # up to 1,000, and problem solve well. Easily tearing through Magic Tree House books with full comprehension. Small small stature (40" and 34 lbs). Social and outgoing but can push limits/rules. D.r.i.v.e.n. and obsessive.
DD2: mild special needs (low endurance and some social immaturity). Quirky in her actions and language. Loner, more attracted to adults than other kids (besides her twin). Reading late 2nd. Prefers non-fiction like Ranger Rick and DK informational texts. writing very simple sentences with phonetic spelling. Very high science knowledge. Creative. Math is easily 1st- understands simple division/multiplication and can mentally +/- up to a sum of 20, can tell time, read large numbers. Easily upset, fatigues quickly. People pleaser and wants to do well. Socially naive but very affectionate. Average height and slender.
Where we live now-- they will feed into K next fall. No exceptions for cut-off date. HIGH red-shirting area. All day K. Most kids are 'at least' 5.5 at the start of K. My girls would be 5y9m They were signed up for a K/1 split class to help match age with abilities. They had GT programming starting in K.
But we are moving--new state will allow then to enter 1st due to age placement. Areas all have 1/2 day K .Red-shirting does NOT happen (due to late cut off and 1/2 day programs). Kids are 4y8m to 5y8m at the start of K. If we do 1st they will be among the youngest at 5y 9m, but not THE youngest. No GT programming at all except AP at HS levels.
Issues: My kiddos would have never had done K if we do 1st grade placement. We will have recently moved. Lots of changes. DD2 may have trouble socially and possibly with the writing. DD1 would likely do fine once she picked up a few math skill 'gaps' but she will need an IEP for her physical disability.
What would you do? Do K and have it be really really easy with kiddos that are younger (they would be oldest) or put them in 1st and hope DD2 adjusts to all the changes quickly while trying to adapt to the higher standards of 1st from a play based preschool setting.
UGH! Anyone been there- done that? With Spec.Needs and advanced kiddos?