I know I took my ball and went home, but I'm back now with my big girl panties so I'm hoping I can watch what I type and we can all get along. We're all super sensitive right now (I have been bawling like a maniac lately because I'm "lonely"), so I am going to try really hard to behave and to also take things with a grain of salt. I have had the most terrible week ever, and this was my ONLY pregnancy support system - I need you guys.
Here's the deal - I'm 23w2d today, and I need a new health care provider. I'm not specifying midwife, because I'm flexible at this point, but I'm firing my current one on Friday. This is long, and I apologize, but I need to vent.
This is my first baby (it's a boy, by the way, but I'll update all that fun stuff in the chat thread later), and I knew I wanted a natural birth, not in a hospital, but not at home. There are two birth centers in town, and I contacted both of them. DH did NOT approve of the first center. He has zero tolerance for tardiness, and they made us wait for over half an hour past our appointment just for our tour. Then we found out it is a rotating pool of providers - we don't get to pick who sees us for prenatal care or who will attend the delivery. When we heard that, we checked out the other center. We liked the facility, loved the childbirth educator that gave us the tour, and I personally loved all the babies! There are little babies all over that place all the time, and it just seemed so relaxed and comfortable.
However, that should have been my clue - things are a little TOO relaxed for my taste. So far, they've screwed up ordering and following up on my labs, have been confused about who saw me and when, given me zero advice about my prenatal vitamins (which led to my chiropractor flipping out about me taking "bad" ones and giving me specific directions), and I've been on the receiving end of some advice I did not like, and did not follow. I have severe allergies, but was instructed not to take anything because "it could make [my] labor last longer."
This is not what made me snap though, surprisingly enough.
I had my only planned ultrasound at exactly 20w (May 23rd) and I called the next day to ask about it. I spoke with my midwife, who was sleep deprived from a delivery, and I told her that I wasn't worried about the results, he was just RIDICULOUSLY active and I wanted to make sure they got all the pictures they needed (the tech had to repeatedly switch what he was looking at because baby would wiggle out of the way). She told me she was going to get some sleep and to give her about 24 hours, but then she'd call. No call came. I'm used to their "no news is good news" policy, though, and didn't give it too much thought.
Monday of this week (23w), I had a large amount of discharge that appeared to be mucus. Like I said, first pregnancy, so I know that SOME is normal, but this was a lot more than "some." I called the birth center, they transferred me to the midwife, and she tells me, "We're just juicier when we're pregnant." She said if I was really that concerned, I could see their nurse on staff. I made an appointment for that afternoon, and the nurse suspects I've got some sort of infection going on, but once again, not the kicker...
The nurse went to measure me, and asked, "Uh, how far along are you again?" "23 weeks, why?" "You're measuring 29." After she confirmed that I was, in fact, measuring at 29 (after measuring 19 4 weeks ago), she asked about my last ultrasound. I told her I had never heard back, so she starts digging - no one has it, and it isn't in my file. She called to get a copy sent over, and guess what? Not only did baby wiggle too much for them to get a good look at his heart, his kidney measurements were really, really high and they had asked that I come back in to have a follow up. Also, baby measured pretty darn big at 20w (his head was 91st percentile) and while examining me, the nurse found an extremely tender spot on my lower left side she wanted looked at.
To summarize, as of Monday afternoon, I had allergies that had gone mostly untreated for 2 months, a vaginal infection that was just me being "juicy" from pregnancy, a baby with a potential issue that should have been identified 2+ weeks prior, a 23w uterus measuring 29w (which at least explains why I thought I felt him in my ribs already), a really fat headed baby, and mystery LLQ pain.
I had my follow up ultrasound yesterday, and I had the report sent to me this morning and all appears to be well. Baby is fine (still big headed, but stll measuring about a week ahead, not SIX weeks), there was no visible reason for my LLQ pain, his kidney measurements were WAY better, and his heart was fine (he just cannot be still - ever). I've got a lot of fluid, but not enough to explain my 6cm measurement discrepancy. I only know all of this though because of calling the clinic for my report - no one from the birth center has contacted me regarding either ultrasound or my labs from Monday.
I'm done. I just don't know how to start trying to find a provider this late in the game. I know of a few awesome midwives through friends, but they only do homebirths. HB is just not an option for me right now.
Any thoughts on good resources for finding out about decent OBs that aren't induction/c-section happy?