My dh and I are debt free except for the house, but we are also, until recently, not able to put away savings and are spending on dumb little things and not keeping track of spending. We have recently switched to a cash only system that is going very well and I am excited to see how much we have saved in a few more weeks.
So, I was complaining to dh about how we have three computers and they are all limping along. Although I do wish for an apple laptop as my dream computer I know it was not possible on our income (I'm looking for work but no work yet). And I'm okay with that. My mentality is about savings right now and I feel good about it.
Dh emailed me that I had a surprise coming in the mail in a week or so. I asked what it was and he acted all mysterious and finally I said, "If it's expensive I think I need to know about it." He confessed that he had ordered me a $1200 apple laptop! Yes it's the computer of my dreams, and I know he loves me to have ordered this for me but I reminded him about how unless we have cash for it and still have savings left, we can't do this. He also wanted to get dd a Nintendo DS "because all her friends have one" and she has been asking, but it's just totally not in the budget either and he's already mad about it but agreed finally that she could live without it.
I asked dh to cancel the order or if it was too late, to not open it and return it to the Apple store. He was able to cancel the order okay before it shipped thank goodness. He's crushed and hurt. He thinks I didn't accept his gift when really I just want to postpone the gift until we can afford it and receive it with a good feeling.
I'm not sure how to fix this . . any ideas? Also any words of support that I did the right thing here? Because I feel bad about this too, but not as bad as a bill for $1300 and the interest, and that much less into savings.
Edited by USAmma - 6/16/11 at 8:20am