Originally Posted by Maedze
An observation: when parents first make the switch from a punitive discipline style (including harsh punishments, striking, etc.) to a more gentle approach (natural consequences, discussion, no hitting), there will often be several weeks of chaos for everyone The children will stretch their wings, test the new found system. They will do things they wouldn't normally do, and the parents will be gritting their teeth thinking, 'ACK, WHAT HAVE I DONE! THIS GENTLE DISCIPLINE BS IS FOR THE BIRDS!"
But then, people self-regulate. Once children see that parents have truly committed to stop hurting them, they start finding it themselves to self-moderate.
The former moderation style of MDC was the pure opposite of gentle discipline. It was harsh, punitive, and extremely nasty. There is going to be an adjustment period. That doesn't mean the correct form of moderating is 'wrong'. It just means people are finally able to breathe without fear.
Yes this. I think that this is what is happening. I think it is like a big pendulum swing. For a long time things were way over to one side and when they let the pendulum go, first (like now) it will swing way over to the other side, then back and forth again in chaos until things settle in the middle.
I do lurk at TWWS. I have for about a year... though I don't post too often (usually in sporadic spurts) and when I do it is the *mostly* the rest of the community.... like sharing pictures of my new kitchen remodel or discussing other family issues. And I find that over there a LARGE number of the people still do care about MDC, I do. And that most of the *snark* that is being referred to is usually because a poster is getting scary, dangerous advice and no one could counter or disagree or debate without breaking the UA's here. So issues and topics were discussed there and often the OP is sent a link and invited over. They aren't being "behind your back", they welcome other views and love it when people come on there to defend their views. Now in general, TWWS spoons is a caring and loving place, but if you are going if you are going to make an outlandish claims you better have links, evidence and support to back you up. Very, very smart women there.
Now if you are just checking on TWWS now, things are a bit chaotic there now too. Droves of MDC members are newly there and are venting (which is normal and okay) and releasing some tension and anger. Soon things will be back to normal there too.
Back to the OP, as I said above, I wondered the same thing about the votes being skewed, but I think the answer is way more complex and as others have said the math just doesn't add up.