My 6 year old son has been forcefully retracted by medical professionals too many times to count. Mostly when he was an infant, and then it started happening regularly again when he was diagnosed with kidney stones at age 3. All his primary care providers have been very unhelpful and not knowledgeable about foreskin at all. In fact the last time we saw his old doctor's NP she actually showed me a picture of a circumcised penis and said "This is what it's supposed to look like. He has a problem and needs a specialist. He needs to be circumcised." and we were there for an ear infection...sigh....
He has been injured a lot, and he always recovered just fine and was back to his old self in no time. BUt the last time he was injured by his urologist it was pretty bad. He ended up cracking and bleeding and swelling, and it took 3 months for the pain and redness to completely go away, but eventually we got things under control again.
But now he's not at all retractable. It used to be retractable and loose, still not wide enough for full retraction, but so close, and so comfortable for him. Now he's having some pain again and the opening is just large enough for urine and when he tries to pull it back it doesn't budge one bit. He says "My penis is broken. Mom. She broke it! It was almost time for me to see all of it in there, but now I can't see it anymore." I told him with time it would get back to normal, but here it is a year later and it still isn't budging, and looks rather sore these days. I think mostly from his dehydrated urine touching the tip, and during erections.
His urologist wanted to do a "procedure" on him the day of the injury and diagnosed him with phimosis even though back then everything was perfectly fine on the foreskin front. I ended up sending a fax to her office complaining of the incident and also sent information about foreskin and how it works and how to properly examine an intact penis and so on, and haven't been back (his Nephrologist handles his kidney stone problem now).
I changed his PCM AGAIN hoping that they would be able to help. Maybe steriod cream or something? I don't think it's infected. He just recently was on a wide spectrum antibiotic followed by an antifungle for his IBD. But she didn't feel comfortable treating him and warned me that he may have to be circumcised. The only specialists available are his current urologist who injured him, and another urologist that diagnosed his painful problems as "Maybe he just likes to pee" even though I could care less about how often he went, and was only there because he hurt. So I'm kinda stuck between a rock and a hard place because I am unable to pay out of pocket. I talked to the PCM about what transpired between his urologist and I and she says "Just tell her there's no way you are circumcising him or doing any other procedure before trying something else to help. If you feel that strongly about it. Don't go in accusatory, and simply state: I don't think this was a problem before we saw you, but it has become a problem. " but then went on to warn me it will most likely end up a circumcision.
So is there a problem? If he was able to almost retract all the way, and now it's like a newborn, or should I drop it and let it be? What procedure besides circumcision can help? Do you think it is necessary? Then there's a part of me that just wants to give up and let the darn docs have their way, so he doesn't have to go through this anymore. Not only do they hurt him, but they make him feel awful and different. My poor kid had to be taught to lie about his painful urination to protect him. I think the pain from urinating isn't his foreskin even though I think there may be a problem there. It's from passing crystals in his urine. Only one of his several doctors says that passing crystals is painful for a child, even when there is blood in his urine. I don't agree. It IS painful for him, but They all blame his foreskin on the "bee sting pain way inside"
So tired of having to tell doctors not to retract, just to have them hurt him anyway. So tired of nudging them out of the way. So tired of promising my boy it won't happen again, and breaking the promise. He has to deal with so much pain and discomfort everyday with his gut and his pee, and I hate to add this to his list, but if there's a problem...I want to help him and do the right thing. PLEASE inform me about the procedures, and give me some advice, so If I do make that appointment with his urologist I'll know what I'm in for and know how to protect him.