Planning a homebirth in the next few days with a midwife I've birthed with twice already...my doula's father became seriously ill the other night and she's flying to the other side of the country today to be with him. She has arranged a back up doula for me. I emailed the back up yesterday and haven't heard back (which is fine - people are busy). I asked my doula when I spoke with her if she thought I could meet the back up ahead of time (like would she stop over for tea this aft or something) and got the surprising answer "probably not - she's awfully busy."
So I'm supposed to call this woman I've never met if I go into labour? In the middle of the night? This is fine and I understand that the circumstances are out of everyone's control but I just don't feel like I *want* a complete stranger here in my house at my birth...
I'm debating whether or not I will even call her when I go into labour.