This is my first pregnancy, and I've been looking for a midwife long-distance. I thought I had found a midwife team that sounded very professional from their website and had delivered over 1000 babies, but when I talked with the midwife last night to ask her three basic questions, I was so disappointed. :(
She sounded basically like an OB-GYN who would do home births and kept suggesting u/s, tests, and doppler use even though I had specifically stated in one of my three questions that I did not want routine care using u/s and dopplers, and I didn't want any diagnostic tests for the baby unless deemed medically unavoidable. I asked her if she used a fetoscope and she said she had one but preferred to use the doppler, and basically made it sound like she never used one and would bully me into using the doppler. I felt like telling her: "I'm sure you prefer to have me give birth lying down, as well."
I also asked her if/how she handled twins and pointed out that I was simply asking because my mom is a twin and I had heard that that might raise my chances of having twins. Without ever having met me, asked me how I felt or what symptoms I had had during my pregnancy, she stated in a condescending tone, as if I were completely out of touch with my body: "Oh, I'm sure you're not carrying twins because the symptoms are so powerful!" As a matter of fact, my grandmother never once had morning sickness or any other so-called "powerful" symptoms during her pregnancy and gave birth to full-term twins, so there.
I always thought that midwives would be supportive of the mother's wishes and would be aware of the issues surrounding unnecessary procedures. Now I'm on the hunt for a midwife that shares my philosophy and I'm starting to wonder how to find her... Any suggestions for what to look for on the websites? I know they all still have availability because I sent out a ton of emails yesterday, but I also don't want to spend days on end interviewing one after another when I get back to San Diego...
If you got this far, thanks for reading this rant!