I am SO glad to hear this! My 4.5 year old has been telling random people that he will poop on their heads and the more people react, of course, the more he does it.
We are religious, and my kids (4.5 and 3.5) were satisfied with we prayed to Gd to give us a baby and He decided this was a good time. They've asked how it will come out, and I explained that women have a special hole in their bodies called a vagina where babies can come out, and after checking to make sure they came out from there too, they were fine with that. The four year old asked whether the baby could fall out early and I explained that it doesn't usually open up until it is time for the baby to come out but sometimes a baby does come early and then it can be very sick. My four year old knows that the baby is in a special place called the uterus inside my tummy; my three year old tells everyone that Mommy has a baby in a ball in her tummy (because that's what it feels like to him when he asks to touch the place the baby is).
Our rule of thumb in dealing with kids is never to lie to them. (I fully believe that prayer had a great deal to do with this baby.) So I may simplify as much as I can, but if they ask follow up questions, I answer honestly. It's happened before that I've told my son I would answer a question when he was old enough to understand the answer better, and (surprisingly, considering his curiosity) he accepted that without any trouble. I don't think I'd say that for a biological process, though. I think it was when my mother-in-law's best friend was dying and he wanted to understand how they knew she was dying and what inside her made her sick enough to die. We talked to him about the basics of cancer, but I decided the gruesome details about which body functions were shutting down how and why could wait until he had a better sense of anatomy. We got a book on skeletons and started discussing the body in general, to give him some context, but he wasn't interested, so I told him we'd wait for the greater explanation until he understood more.
Originally Posted by Jaimee
Dd is 4.5 and full on into pee, poop, penis, vagina stage. A frequent exclamation from here is "I just pooped on your face!" Lovely. And just the other day she was apparently having a conversation with her little friend (who is almost 5) and was talking about how she has a vagina and her brother has a penis. The friend ran to her father and exclaimed that my dd was using "potty language." Sigh... At any rate, that story explains where we stand on the body part issue. We have always used the correct terms and she knows that babies grow in my tummy and come out my vagina. She also knows that daddy put sperm inside my vagina with his penis and that is how the baby was made. She kept asking clarifying questions so we kept adding details until she had all the facts. I'm not sure if she remembers it all, but she sure is fascinated by body parts these days!
I agree that it's best to start extremely simple and get more detailed depending on the questions they ask.