Anyone else resent Fathers Day? - Page 2

[seawitch]

I guess I also don't know what preschools do about the kids who don't have fathers around. Last Christmas they made a present together for the parents and wrapped them, and most of them were addressed to both mom and dad, but mine was addressed just to me. (A few others were, too.) I wonder, if the kids were still in the same school for Father's day, how they would have handled that. I'm positive we weren't the only family there to not have an involved father for the kids.

[meemee]

ex and i feel the same way about those kind of days - bdays and f/m's day.

its not a big deal to us. initially we both recognised those days and at least helped dd make a card. now its helping dd do what she wants to do. 

no i dont resent it. mainly coz dd is excited about it. 

[ZoeyZoo]

I honestly don't like to do anything ON these days. Everything is over crowded and over priced just because people feel they need to do something special. Mother's Day was schedule on XH's day and he seem surprised when I let him take her. I felt sort of strange too because I got so many Happy Mother's Day comments and I didn't have my dd. It almost made me feel like a bad mother for taking dd before that day instead of on it. Instead I took dd the weekend before (when it wouldn't be crowded), took her to my parents, and we all spent a lovely day together on the water.

As for gifts I helped dd put together a card for XH but that's as far as I have taken anything to him. I didn't even get a happy mother's day so I'm not planning on doing anything unless dd does it in preschool or asks to.

[mandalamama]

i used to laugh at my friend M. when she always bought her own holiday, birthday and Mother's day presents, even the cards! year after year.

then i got divorced.

[Murph12334]

ah for fathers day i let the kids go with their dad even though it wasn't his weekend to have them...  He took them to the zoo.  I find out later from friends who are still on his facebook of his post.

He said it made his father's day when our son pointed to an elephant and said mommy. 

[Devaya]

Oops, I totally forgot about it for the second year running! Last year X got huffy (b/c he does actually usually get me a card for Mothers Day), but this year he didn't mention it b/c he hadn't got me a Mothers day one. I am not fussed about it, it may become more of an issue when DS is older (he's 3) but I've always found these occasions forced and corny, (and commercial) though it is interesting to hear a bit on this thread about other cultures' recognition of these things. I sort of leave it to the preschools/nurseries to sort something out, and this year they, weirdly, didn't do Father's day, just Mother's day - perhaps because there are one or two children without fathers in their lives, and they were just trying to be sensitive to that.