What should somebody do when their child talks about skin color, specifically other people having different skin colors than they do? Nothing? Something?
Ds1 is in a multi-cultural school, where well over half of the students are visible minorities. We are white. One of his friends has very dark skin, and he's mentioned her skin color a couple of different times. None of these have any negative thought on his part, btw.
To give you an example, my ds, his friend and her older sister, an older boy we babysit and another girl from his school were playing together at his friend's house. They were playing basketball, and were trying to determine teams. Some ideas they had were older kids vs. younger kids, boys vs. girls, and ds1's idea was brown skin vs. white skin. His friend's mom pointed out (I should add that she was smiling) that ds1 would be the only person on the "white skin" team. That was that, and they figured out the teams and started playing the game.
In this situation, should I have said anything to him? Should I say something to him after the fact?
I don't know if these things make any difference, but in his school, there are a lot of families who are actually from other countries (as in, the parents moved here from their country of origin), and speak english as a second language. So discussions about "where are you from" are relatively common (and people ask me as well, as it seems to be apparent that I'm "from the south" lol).
Secondly, many of the kids are Japanese or Chinese, so I think that ds1 doesn't see their skin as very different. His friend is quite a bit darker, so he seems to see her as looking different, where he doesn't think that of most of the other kids, apparently.