Thanks for being here. I came to this spot because I'd like a little help figuring out how we want our pediatrician to handle our intact son. We feel that it (circumcision) is a personal decision and are happy to talk to others if asked, but don't believe that it is as high on the horrible parenting choices scale as some people do. I'm pretty uncomfortable with the shrill tenor of discussion that surrounds this issue.
We're both scientists and like evidence based practices. When our ped told us we needed to retract our newborn's foreskin every day we just ignored her because we knew that it wasn't true. We like her; she's smart and compassionate and really takes her role as the child's health advocate seriously. She gives us her opinion and then lets us decide what to do without punitive reciprocations (we do our own schedule for vaccination and have chosen to avoid vaccinations for things we feel are low risk for children (like hep B)). We just felt her opinion on this issue was pretty dated.
That being said, at our son's developmental checkups she likes to pull back his foreskin to see how his penis looks. It's always been able to be fully retracted. He's turned out to be very verbal so I kind of talked him through things last time (18 mo) and he was a little surprised but didn't act like it was a big deal and it wasn't, compared to what he likes to do to it! He reacted to some other things pretty strongly, like taking off clothes and being taken outside to be weighed...I've decided he doesn't have to do that again. We're getting ready for his 2 year visit next month and I'm wondering about this. I've read some stuff that really seemed hysterical to me about how terrible it was to let the ped do this to your child. I don't think it's terrible per se, but at the same time, it does seem invasive. I guess what I'd like to know is what you believe is the best practice for intact penis examination at checkups and the evidence that informs your belief.