I live in a small town in BC and had a horrible experience with my first baby and a hospital birth. So many things went wrong that could have been prevented, they made me feel unwanted and uncomfortable, and they laughed at my birth plan, and they gave me oxytocin while i slept without my permission! I was appalled.
Unfortunately in my town there are no midwives. I would have to spend a month out of my town in the nearest town with a midwife to even get one (and still not have a homebirth).
There are "unregistered" midwives here that i've heard of through the grape vine.. but i still dont know. I'm thinking of having my doula (or two) and some other lady friends who have attended births to be around for it.
I'm not even sure what questions i need to ask in this situation. I know my doctor would probably hunt me down and drag my ass to the hospital if he knew i was in labour and not going there...
do i continue with my prenatal check ups with my doctor (which seem pretty pointless anyways)? what could they do if i stopped going and they knew my intentions?
What is the "procedure" (for lack of better word) after birth, with registry, check ups and all that?
and if something goes wrong and i end up in the maternity ward with those nasty nurses again...i dont even know!
I need advice!