What kind of consequences can I used for my dd who will be 3 in a few weeks when she is completely defiant? I know that she's younger, but she's getting old enough to understand what is allowed. She role plays with her dolls about what they shouldn't be doing and puts them in time-out.
I've starting doing more time-outs lately, maybe one every other day, as far as frequency goes, only if she is really out of hand,
Here's an example. Today she was blowing bubbles and my husband told her she needed to be careful not to blow them in the new puppies face (or spill it on the puppy, something to that effect.) Anyway, I guess she continued doing this and my husband was telling her to stop. He may even have tried to get her to give him the bubbles. So, she threw them in his face, just missing his eyes!!
I know she doesn't understand how serious it is to throw soap in someone's face, but that is the anger and defiance I'm talking about.
I put her in time-out for that. I had to sit with her for most of it b/c I couldn't keep her on the step. Lately, I've wanted to spank her, because I couldn't think of any other way to get her to stop her completely out of control fits...but I can't do it. I don't want to do it. But I need some alternatives. She is very verbal. Maybe I expect more from her than she can handle because of this.
BUT, when it enough enough? At what age do I say "This behavior is completely inappropriate" and how do I enforce it or reinforce it?
Help! I haven't been enjoying parenting as much lately.