When i was 17 i became pregnant with my first child. I had a perfect pregnancy and turned 18. At 42 weeks i went into labor and we headed to the hospital after about 6 hours. This was on christmas day 2007. At the hospital i was put on monitoring for assesment for induction. I was strapped to the bed with all the monitors etc. The doctor came in and said she had to check my cervix. She then "accidentally" broke my waters. I know she auctually meant to do it because of the smirk and the sarcasm in her voice as she said OPPS when they broke. Here i was told i was 6 and a half cm's dialated.
I was taken to a delivery room and told to get on the bed as i had to be monitored. We were also told we couldnt use cellphones in the room so my mum asked the nurse to ring my midwife. I got into the room at 10.30am and by 1pm i was asking to push...all this time i was told i couldnt get off the bed as i had to have continuious monitoring but was never told why. I was told they couldnt get ahold of my midwife.
At 1.10pm thy told me to stop being stupid and i couldnt push as there was no way id be dialated enough to push. The nurse went and got pethidine, i never asked for it but was given it without being checked. Within a minute of being given it my babys heart rate went nuts and then stopped and then went irratic. The emergency button was pushed and about 20 doctors and nurses came in, i was checked and found that baby was crowning but they said, even though i was pushing they had to do a cser.
I was wheeled fully nakd on the bed down the hallway. I remember seeing other familys down the end of the hall watching me. I was screaming in the pain. I was put under, i fought all the way. I was petrified. And 2hours later i woke up in recovery. I was given a crash cser and spent the next 6weeks almost on my seath bed, trying to look after a newborn. My cser was severly botched and i ended up having a laporoscopy to clean out the terrible infections i had caught. I became terribly depressed and not happy.
Fast foward a bit and my husband and i decide to start trying for another baby. After 6months we find out im pregnant with twins. I was rushed into surgery for another laporoscopy as one of my babies was ectopic. Thankfully the other twin survived the surgery and i continued on with my pregnancy as planned. I began planning a VBAC as i was still so traumatised and depressed about having a cser with my first. At 34 weeks i went into labor and was having severe contractions. I managed to hold off for 5 days before my waters broke. Up untill this point i was still having a VBAC. When my waters broke and still my cervix wasnt dialating the doctors and nurses came to discuss options with me. Well, thats what they called it. I feel as though i was pushed and pressured into having a cser. I cried from that point on. I had the cser and my baby was rushed straight to the neonatal unit and spent a week in there. Shes 13months now and still suffers the effects of being prem.
All of this and the attitudes of doctors and nurses aswell as some midwives has me soo upset. My husband and i desperatley want more children but i am absolutley petrified that i will be pressured and made to feel guilty for doing what i want. I know that the first two times i would have succesfully given birth vaginally to my children. The reasons i was given csers both times are not reasons. I feel both times they just didnt want to deal with a teenager in labor.
Do any of you feel the same or have similar stories. I have done some research but no matter how many facts and figers are out there i feel as though i will be fighting with everyone all the way to have a VBA2C. I am only 22, im fit and healthy what more could they want. I still feel as though its my choice, its just hard to stick to my guns about having a natural birth when you have sooo many people against you.