My 9-month-old son has been ECed since he was about 4 weeks old. For quite some time, we did nighttime EC (with cloth diaper backup). There was a blessed month when he actually was dry all night, waking only once to nurse (!). I think this was around 6 months old. However, since then, we've gotten really intense nighttime potty signalling, followed by refusal. I suspect this might have something to do with teething/not sleeping as deeply.
Here's what happens. He wakes up fussing, in a particular manner that I think of as "needs to use the potty." I offer the potty. He refuses, arching his back, wiggling away, screaming--and this is before his little tush touches the potty, so it's not one of those things where the potty itself is uncomfortable. I don't force it, but nurse him to sleep. JUST as he's ABOUT to fall asleep, he pees himself and FREAKS OUT. This is not one of those babies who will quietly tolerate a wet diaper. So then I change him (sometimes offering the potty again, but if I do, it's the same intense refusal), and nurse him to sleep AGAIN.
It wouldn't be so bad, but this process takes 10 minutes or more, involves changing a diaper in the dark, and happens more than once per night. Last night, I think it happened four or five times. I'm exhausted.
I'm also totally confused. He will happily use the potty--THIS same potty, in the same spot, with the same lighting conditions--right before he goes to sleep for the first time each night. He also happily uses it first thing each morning.
Has anyone else had this happen? I have no idea what to do. I work full time. I need some sleep, sometimes. And before you ask, no, DH doesn't get up with the baby in the middle of the night. He can sleep through the baby screaming right next to his head. Asking him to take some of the night time parenting doesn't help me get more sleep, because I have to shake him awake, wait for him to realize where he is and what needs to be done...and by then, our son is so far gone into freak out territory that nursing is the only thing that will calm him down.