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Poll Results: If you cosleep, do you go to bed at the same time as your kids?

 
  • 32% (39)
    generally yes
  • 67% (82)
    generally no
121 Total Votes  
post #21 of 45

I'm shocked by the number of no's.  How do you do it?

 

DD fell asleep in my arms while watching TV up until about 15 months.  Then I had to go to bed with her.  And if I am lying down to get her to sleep I generally fall asleep.  She's 26 months now and something needs to change, still trying to figure out what and how.

post #22 of 45

I checked "no" because the times I got to sleep with him are when I choose to not because I need to. Of course, he's lately done this late afternoon nap so he's going to bed around 10 (!) so those nights I'll go to sleep with him b/c I'm tired!

 

I nurse him until he's asleep and then he takes the binky and then I'll hold him a while before I can lay him down. He sleeps on a queen mattress on the floor in our room.

 

 

post #23 of 45

For me, DD falls asleep in my lap or beside me. I lay her down or get up from laying with her. I guess it all depends. Some days are easier than others. Generally, we all have to be in bed with the lights out with TV low or off. That's the only way she'll fall asleep. Unless she's really sleepy :) Just my experience :)

post #24 of 45

Usually not.  Sometimes we fall asleep putting them to bed, or if dh is away I might just go to bed with them, but generally I would put them down and come to bed later.

post #25 of 45

Nope, there was a time, but it was mostly out of my complete exhaustion and wanting to spend some extra dream-time with our new family member - now 4 1/2mos. Generally DS goes to bed around 8:30, followed by me around 10:30, followed by DH around 11:30-12-1am, depending on the weekday.

post #26 of 45

I have a thermarest, which is a lightweight sleeping pad for camping, I put DD to sleep on that, and then I'll bring her into bed after she wakes up. Generally a hour or two after I go to bed. The sleeping pad is the only thing that works. I can never get the pack-n-play or crib to work.

post #27 of 45

For the first 6 months, dd wouldn't sleep unless I was with her, so I would bring my laptop to bed an watch movies while dd slept.  We just stopped cosleeping, but from 6 months to 2 1/2yrs I would put her down to sleep and then I would leave.  She goes to sleep at 7 so I'm not going to sleep then, unless I'm sick.

post #28 of 45

Great question :)

 

I co sleep in the same room as AE and I put her to bed at 830-900 and I don't go to bed until 12, then we both wake up at 8-9 :)

post #29 of 45
No, but my 16 mo DS thinks we have the same bedtime! I nurse him to sleep in our bed and get up when I can. I usually only have 30-60 min before he'll wake up, noticing I'm not there. So, if I need to finish something downstairs, I do that right away (monitor in hand) and go back up ASAP. Then I do my yoga practice and meditate near the bed so I can quickly nurse him back down. Someday I hope he will relax about my proximity and just keep sleeping, knowing that I'm nearby!
post #30 of 45

I lay down with DS and  nurse him to sleep in our bed around 7:30 and he's good for a few hours until we come to bed. He's 9 months though so he can go longer at night without nursing.

post #31 of 45

depends, i usually read stories and lay with them (nursing the younger mostly) they both fall asleep and i sneak out. sometimes i do fall asleep if i was up too late the night before. or sometimes nursing just knocks me out lol.gif

post #32 of 45

i didn't vote cuz there wasn't a box for "sometimes, depends on how tired we both are"

My boy (don't understand the acronym thing - are y'all saying DS for dear son or something?) is 2.5 and i still stay in bed with him until he is asleep for every nap and nighttime. Some might call me crazy but 98% of the time i don't mind. He is my one and only child and i had almost 40 years of going to bed whenever i wanted so now it's my time to nurture this amazing human. Ask me in a year and i might be singing a different tune, but it works for me now mostly. We are in the crazy time of transitioning out of naps so if he has one and then is awake really late i fall asleep with him, sometimes i think before him!, and if he hasn't had one he'll fall asleep more like 8 o'clock and then i get up and it's so lovely.

 

post #33 of 45

Yes!  I am actually surprised at how many no votes there are.  Getting the kids to go to bed on their own is hard enough when they are in another room, but they all are in my room, and getting them to go to bed when I'm still up is a real battle that I decided that I don't want to fight.  I go to bed with the kids around 10.  Nursing the baby always puts me to sleep anyway.  I'm a morning person, so I do get my "adult" time when I get up, and they sleep in.  My husband often goes to bed much later doing work, then he sleeps in with the kids.  Sometimes he will wake me up when he comes to bed and we'll have some adult time together.  Yep, that's how we do it at our house, and it works great for us.

post #34 of 45

It depends.  My DD doesn't go to bed until about 10 pm.  If I'm exhausted, sometimes I'll fall asleep to and not get back up.  Those hours between 10 pm and midnight are really precious to me though for getting things done or just unwinding with DH.  Often DD will fall asleep and then I'll get back up for a few hours to spend some time talking with DH or getting ready for the next day.  We have a new kitten and she requires some loving and attention after DD goes to bed.  She sleeps all day and then is a live wire at night! 

post #35 of 45

Nope. ds1 goes to bed first. He is no longer in the family bed, but he's still in the room. He likes to "warm up" the bed for us. He brushes his teeth, reads a few stories and then gets into the family bed on my side. Then about 10 minutes later ds2 goes to bed. Brush teeth, story, nurse. ds2 goes to sleep in the family bed still. Then a few hours later I'll go to bed. I'll put ds1 in his bed and get into my side, usually at that point ds2 is ready to nurse again. Then about 30ish minutes later DH will come to bed. He likes to take the dogs for a late walk before bed.

post #36 of 45

Nope - it's the only time I really get to do anything - like cook dinner. I go to bed about 2-3 hours after him - he usually wakes up to nurse when I go to bed so it works out.

 

edit: He's in bed at 7:30 - 8pm

post #37 of 45

My son starts out in his crib and then often comes in with us in the middle of the night.  So, everyone who puts baby to sleep in their bed and then leaves for adult time, how do you make your bed safe for baby without you there?  We don't have bed rails and I worry he'd roll off the bed.

post #38 of 45
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Originally Posted by BlueSkyDay View Post

My son starts out in his crib and then often comes in with us in the middle of the night.  So, everyone who puts baby to sleep in their bed and then leaves for adult time, how do you make your bed safe for baby without you there?  We don't have bed rails and I worry he'd roll off the bed.



Our bed is on the floor. We put sheep furs on the floor, and a body pillow where the bed meets the floor to "break" a fall.

We made a special frame for our mattress shortly after he was born so that we could be on the floor.

post #39 of 45

We plan to go to bed at the same time. Sometimes one or the other child falls asleep before i do. But once im in bed, they want to join me, if if they continue to play for a couple of minutes. I cant imagine the hassle of doing it any other way.

post #40 of 45

I don't co-sleep anymore, but when I did my dd and I were asleep at the same time.  Even now I don't stay up much longer than she does usually.

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