Plumber was flirting with me--what next? - Page 2

[Kerynna]

Originally Posted by GranoLLLy-girl 

I have to laugh because I'm SO rusty at dating!  It's been 20 years.  I'm a little overweight but I do wear makeup.

So--I got a leak and called my home warranty folks.  They sent a totally adorable guy over to fix my leak.  Throughout the course of the hour that he was there he told me I had the prettiest hair and eyes, called me babydoll (which I thought was cute because he apologized as soon as he said it),

I hate to throw a wet blanket over this fun thread, but honestly, I'm getting all kinds of red flag feelings when I read this.  That strikes me as very unprofessional behavior and I'm pretty sure that any plumber worth his, uh, wrench, would be super-careful about being perceived as coming on to a single female with whom he is alone while on the job.  He has *no business* commenting on your eyes or appearance while he is there to do a professional repair.  I can understand that it was flattering and exciting, and most likely, he meant well; but what if he comments on women's appearances in other situations, and not so flatteringly?  Who does he think his is to remark on the looks of customers, who simply want to get their plumbing back in working order?

The "babydoll" thing really freaks me out, frankly.   But I'm cranky, lol.

[Latte Mama]

Aw come on!  We're all human beings after all and plenty of couple meet while working or in other situations like this.  I don't see any red flags at all here and think it would be a cute story if it turned into something.

OP you have to update!

(and I'm totally forum crashing)

[MoonWillow]

I'm forum crashing too lol. 

Are you in the south? Because I can see calling someone "babydoll" in the south, but also that it could be awkward/inappropriate elsewhere.

I also think he left the tools on purpose.

I would see how he responds when asked if he speaks to other clients this way. Maybe he really is just gobsmacked and this is the first time he has acted this way. I hope.  

[princesstutu]

Well, he apologized for the "babydoll" immediately, so it probably just slipped out and he understands respect and boundaries. 

I'm guessing he may have left the tools, too, because he wasn't sure how to lead up to something. 

I recently had a cable guy hit on me and it was sweet.  I say have your fun when it presents itself!

But, I would NOT invite him for coffee or anything.  I would just call him, tell him about his tools, and see what HE says when he comes to pick them up. 

A date is nice, but I don't ask guys out.  I think it sets a bad precedent.  (I know. I know. There are super-sweet shy guys out there.  I still don't ask guys out. If he can't ask me a simple question, I know we will not make it, so I don't even go there.)

[GranoLLLy-girl]

Well, after several days...I did call.  And I left a message saying that he left the tools.  He called right back.  Said we could meet on Saturday and was glad to hear about the tools.  So we'll probably meet at the nearby Starbucks...and it probably won't go any further than that--he was still sweet on the phone--but didn't sound as flirty.

Yes, we're in the south--and frankly, I don't mind asking guys out...sometimes it takes a little push to get them out of the gate...but I don't consider meeting him at Starbucks to return tools a date.  I do have to laugh at the twists this thread has taken...and my IRL bestie said that this whole thing did sound like a bit of a porn film to her, too!  LOL!

[MoonWillow]

But if you have coffee after the transfer of tools, its a date!

Now mind you math was never my strong suit but it seems to me that:

+  = 

[GranoLLLy-girl]

LOL--no more babies here!  But I wouldn't mind the practice!  LOL!!

Originally Posted by MoonWillow 

But if you have coffee after the transfer of tools, its a date!

Now mind you math was never my strong suit but it seems to me that:

+  = 

[MoonWillow]

We need a "couple" smiley!  
 

Originally Posted by GranoLLLy-girl 

LOL--no more babies here!  But I wouldn't mind the practice!  LOL!!

[McGucks]

Sorry I am not up on the fiction-writing a la unbuckling and beckoning...BUT...my DH is in a similar profession and said two things:  1) plumbers sometimes don't wear rings because they can lose them on the job, and 2) he totally left the tools there on purpose.  And he didn't say this since I didn't read your whole post to him, but the weight thing?  Meh.  Most guys like women just fine without scary skinny angles.

I would offer to bring his tools to him in a public location.  I honestly would also run his name through a sex offender registry...when I was dating, I did this before I ever went on a date.  You go to your state police registry and type in your zip code.  In my state, it brings up a photo and address and sometimes the details of the offense.  I am not trying to freak you out...just a BTDT piece of advice.  Dating freaked me out, too, and this was one thing I could do to feel a bit safer.  Since you have kids, I wouldn't invite him back to your place again until you know him a whole lot better.

Overall, it sounds good and fun and I would be butterfly-ish in my tummy about it, too.  Good luck!

[GranoLLLy-girl]

Well, weekend went by...no plumber.  He was to call me over the weekend when the time was good for him--no call ever came. I called him the first time to tell him I had the tools and to make sure he had my number and I didn't call him after that.  He'll call if he wants the tools badly enough--I look at it this way:  he has more to lose than I if he doesn't call.  And I don't feel it's my responsibility to chase him to return something that belongs to him.  It's not like I borrowed the tools--he simply left them.  I do hope that this is not a trick he tries often or he is going to be very poor leaving his tools all over the city--and the pun is pretty good, too!  LOL!!