Anyone planning a Unassisted Birth ? - Page 3

[Paigekitten]

I was telling DH about all the craziness on the HB forum lately and said something about OB's being surgeons, and he was "wait, WHAT?  Then why are they seeing normal pregnancies at all?"  It's like he knew that, but didn't really ever think about it.  I'm just working on him bit by bit, hopefully he'll come around soon.  He is sooooo much less scared of birth then he was with our first, maybe someday he'll be gung-ho about UC too.

[IwannaBanRN]

I was looking at photos of an unassisted breech birth the other night and DH happened to see it and he was like "OMG! What the hell IS that?!" And then he saw what was going on in the picture and he was like turn it off! Turn it off! LMAO I looked at him and said "you watched both of your kids being born. What's wrong with this?" Well, it's just not normal! haha It was kinda funny, and I wanted to poke at him some more about it cuz I thought it was funny that he thought it odd a baby was coming out the opposite way that it usually does. lol

[Paigekitten]

I totally sent my DH some blogs about breech births and he opened it up and said "what IS this?"  He read them though. I hadn't realized that just touching the baby can cause a reflex and have them move their arms, I always thought the "hands off breech" rule was to avoid yanking.

[IwannaBanRN]

I still laugh to myself when I think of DH "What the HELL?.........." haha It's still a baby coming out of a woman, only the opposite way. "It's just not normal." lol

[SoCaliMommy]

 Anyone worried about what you have to do to get a birth certificate ?

[IwannaBanRN]

I'm a little worried about being hassled while getting a birth certificate, but I know where to get the paperwork and stuff.

[justamama]

We call our local vital statistics office, and they send the paperwork. We fill it out and the Dr gives us a letter certifying he saw the baby w/in 24 hrs for the nb screen...

[TalkToMeNow]

I'm not having an UC, but homebirth with a midwife is illegal in GA, so you sort of have to pretend you had an UC when you get the birth certificate. I had to fill out some prenatal records (pretended I'd kept up with them all along) with dates, etc. Then I needed a letter with witness signatures stating they saw the baby around the time it was born. Used dh and my mom for that. Then, of course, was the actual state form they gave me to apply for the certificate. It was very simple, no one gave me any trouble or even asked any questions. Hth! :)
 

Originally Posted by SoCaliMommy 

 Anyone worried about what you have to do to get a birth certificate ?

[SoCaliMommy]

 Vital Records wasn't that helpful. They won't send anything til after the baby is born and the one thing i found on line for our county  in pdf form was from 2008 and it says how it has to be done within 10days of birth.

[Jaimee]

We had an illegal CPM for my hb with ds so she could not fill out the birth certificate paperwork for us either.  We just called vital records and the state of Maryland sent out a nurse to verify that ds was in fact a real baby and asked us a few questions involving my prenatal care, the pediatrician, etc..  We were simply careful to not mention our mw's name and listed dh as the birth attendant (which he was since we had our mw stay in the next room during the birth anyway).  Honestly the most annoying part about the process was spelling ds' name.  We gave him two middle names and the nurse was flustered the entire time saying that they would likely get it wrong.  I have no idea why.  But they got it right on the birth certificate and wrong on the SS card.  Anyway, once you file for the birth certificate, they file for the SS card for you and that will come in the mail.  Then you can order copies of the birth certificate online.  It's not hard.

After doing some more research now that we're actually here in Illinois, I may get the birth I was hoping for!  There is a "birth photographer" that used to be a midwife (but quit due to the hostile climate here) that is willing to be present at the birth in case anything happens!  I need to meet her and see how I feel about her and the situation, but that would be ideal!

[heket]

Have you tried searching using the phrase "out-of-hospital birth"?  It took some delving and finally I found that term on a midwife site.  I added that plus the name of my county in google to find what I needed.

[TalkToMeNow]

Kami, try starting a thread in the Finding Your Tribe area. I'm sure there are moms there who have done it before.

[Krystal323]

Umm....Hi everyone!  This is my first post in this DDC, but I'm a longtime-MDC-mama, pregnant with #5, due in Nov, and planning a UC :)  I haven't been hanging out here for a long time, due to computer issues and other weirdness.  When I first found out I was pregnant, I joined the DDC on DiaperSwappers--but they are so much more mainstream than I am, it's just not my style, LOL.

I planned a UC once before, with my 3rd baby, but panicked at 43 weeks with no support, no money, and LOTS of stress.  That was a horrible hospital birth--natural, quick, but obscenely stressful.  If I had known then that there was such a thing as birth assault, I would have pressed charges.   But I digress.  I'm very psyched to be planning a UC this time, and very much more zen about it!  

Now to post an intro thread...  :D

[birdhappy85]

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Edited by birdhappy85 - 4/27/13 at 6:34pm

[Jaimee]

Originally Posted by birdhappy85 

One other thing... I had no idea that home-birth midwifery was illegal in some states. SERIOUSLY?!

Homebirth itself is never illegal, but the midwives that attend homebirths are often illegal.  In many states CNM's can only attend homebirths if they are overseen by an MD of some sort and most MD's are not willing to do that.  In other states CPM's cannot even be licensed to be overseen by an MD, so they are always illegal in those states.  Not to mention DEM's and LM's.  You can check out the status of mw's by state here: http://mana.org/statechart.html   I just happen to be living in Maryland and Illinois while birthing my last two babies... bad luck!
 

But the good news is that we are hiring an illegal mw here (the birth photographer I mentioned above) and she is willing to give us the birth we're looking for... just checking FHT's once when she arrives and once when my water breaks.  That's it!  No other protocols!  Yay!!!

[birdhappy85]

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Edited by birdhappy85 - 4/27/13 at 6:35pm

[IwannaBanRN]

So when my mom was trying to scare me out of homebirth, she kept bringing up the dead baby card saying if the baby dies CPS will be called on me. Would this be true? Since UC isn't illegal, that shouldn't happen at all, right?

[meesh933]

Honestly, it is possible, even if baby is perfectly fine. A friend of mine had her first two at home w/ MWs, #3 was a UC. The neighbor found out and called CPS, and she was on their radar for quite some time. She had a MW there with #4, just to be on the safe side (because of CPS, not because she thought UC was dangerous). We live in Texas, where there is very much a "you do what you want, I do what I want" attitude, but she still had issues. (I also have a friend who had CPS called at the hospital for refusing eye ointment!)

My thoughts are, if the baby dies, CPS is the least of my concerns.

 

Originally Posted by IwannaBanRN 

So when my mom was trying to scare me out of homebirth, she kept bringing up the dead baby card saying if the baby dies CPS will be called on me. Would this be true? Since UC isn't illegal, that shouldn't happen at all, right?

[Jaimee]

If you search the UC forum you'll find many a post about CPS being called and what the parents had to deal with regarding home visits.  There are also recommendations for how to handle CPS should they show up on your doorstep.

[SoCaliMommy]

I started a thread over in the group here is the link. [=http://www.mothering.com/community/t/1329601/unassisted-birth#post_16655804]Unassisted birth[/]