Navigating my way with the neighbour boy and his parents

[4Marmalade]

I've seen similar threads with good advice so here's my own.  We live in a rural area and a new family has moved down the street and they have a boy who is 9 (my ds is 8.5).  We have met the mom and her partner, the boy is very nice and I have no problem with him being around our family.  The two boys like to go bike riding.  He is coming over more and more and I like that as my ds could use a friend around here.  I'm wondering though if I have any obligation to the mom on letting her know what is going on.  I'm assuming she knows he is here.  I asked him that last night and he said she knew.  She called me at 5:15pm to see if he was still here because she had told him to come home at 4:45-5pm.  I said no problem and sent him home (we were having dinner so I was going to anyways).  Do I need to check with the boy on when he was told to go home?  Do I assume that they will deal with it on their end?  What about offering snacks, etc...?  I know there are no allergies in the family.  Last night, ds had some candy and was sharing some but I wondered if that was OK.  What about if they go bike riding further down the street from our house?  Is it OK for him to come in the house?  I'm thinking I just need to call the mom and discuss a few things before they are out of school and getting together more often.    

[hildare]

maybe it's just me and i'm lonely out in the boonies, but i'd jump on the chance to go meet with the mom and talk about what her expectations might be and ask if junk food sharing, etc. is ok. 

:)  if they just moved in then you can play welcome wagon!

[velochic]

Originally Posted by 4Marmalade 

I'm thinking I just need to call the mom and discuss a few things before they are out of school and getting together more often.    

Sounds like a good plan.

[mandalamama]

i have kids call their parent in front of me so i know their parent knows they're here i taught my girl at a very early age to call me from friend's houses and check in. so far it works great, a lot of friendships have blossomed from all the contact - for both of us.