So ex is taking the kids "as often as possible" lately, before he leaves for the dominican republic for good. This consists of most weekends, and a planned trip to borrow his uncle's cottage again for a week in July.
The kids returned home late on Sunday. It was DD's birthday on Saturday, ex turned off his cellphone so I wouldn't be able to call her, after watching me tell her in front of him that I would be calling that morning. We had planned to do a cake on Sunday for her, and I had people here waiting for her to arrive. He showed up an hour late without notice, and most everyone ended up having to leave as they had already been here for hours..and we had no way of knowing when he'd finally show up with them.
When they finally got here, the rest of the birthday guests immediately got to hear from my daughter that she had "a birthday from H word" (ie: hell), because they made it all about ex's girlfriend's daughter on Saturday, as it was her first time swimming and her first time having a camp fire. They didn't acknowledge her birthday at all, and she was pretty upset about it. Then she laughed and told us she had seen daddy's penis this weekend, because he "forgot" his swimsuit, and then DS piped up with "Yeah, and we saw daddy's girlfriend's vagina beard, too! And her boobies!"
They went skinny dipping WITH my children.
I am livid. I'm totally not comfortable with this, and don't know how to approach the topic with him. I know he expects to take the kids for a full week to this place, where no doubt even more naked swimming is going to happen. Why would he think it's at all appropriate for him and his girlfriend to fool around naked (DS mentioned they were "making out") in the water WITH my kids out there swimming with them??? I am sick about this.
On top of that, when I asked if they had brushed their teeth at all this weekend (fully expecting the typical "No", as he doesn't enforce hygiene at all) it was followed by the excuse that they had no water at the cottage. No water?? What did they drink? "Oh, juice, pop, that sort of thing." It was nearly 40 celcius all weekend. That's flipping HOT. And they went without water the entire weekend??
I am so angry at him.
Oh yes, and then they came home Sunday night and both cried for literally hours, because ex told them that they would be allowed to move with him to the dominican republic....but mommy wouldn't let them.