From your own words it really does come across that it is about you.
It seems that you are better able to parent when you are not faced with the tasks of HSing----it does not seem that HS in it self (as I read what the OP wanted) was the issue, more so you had an issue with different aspects and seem not to equate your inability as not the cause here. I'm really baffled by your lack of owing up when you are requesting it from others.
I certainly understand how some years things do work and other times they don't. One post you state how great it was yet your children are now better off---comes across as quite a contradiction.
It seems unfortunate to lay so much blame on HS the way you are and the push you are asserting that school is far better, when the reality appears that you had trouble (not HS for what it is) and you are the one that is better off. Less to do, more free time, etc.
You keep railing and railing against those that do have a positive experience. I understand it didn't keep working out for you but why keep bashing the way you are?
Every decision that I've made about my child's education was based on what I believed was best for them at the time. Every single decision. The decision to homeschool, the decision to try school. The decision to change schools. Every single decision was about them.
Schooling worked out to have a fabulous side benefit for *me,* but that's not *why* my kids go to school.
My children attend a fabulous school where they are thriving. They are very happy, they are learning a great deal, they are having fabulous experiences.
I'm not sure what it is you want me to own up to -- that after being on as a parent for 24 hours a day, 7 days a week for nearly 13 years, I needed a break? I own that. I was burned out. It's not why my kids started school, but it's true. (I do reject the idea that being burned out means I have a character flaw or that I'm selfish. I think it's most likely because I'm human.)
As far as contradicting myself on our homeschooling experience, one of my children homeschooling until she was 12. There were a lot of years in there. Had things always gone as well as they did at the beginning, she might sill be homeschooling. Had things always gone as badly as they did at the end, she would have started school a lot sooner. There isn't a contradiction.
The school my kids go to now is amazing. Truly amazing. We had to re-located last year for my DH's job and had our choice of 3 cities. I researched public and private schools (as well as homeschooling communities) in all 3 cities, and picked the very best match for my child who is both gifted and on the autism spectrum. It's a private alternative school. We gave our gifted but neuro-typical DD the option of attending the same school or attending the best traditional middle school and high school in the city. My Dh and I have made decisions and sacrifices to have our kids in a fabulous situation that they love.
I'm not railing against those who are having a different experience. I'm just stating what my kids' experiences were, what my experiences were. I have NO idea why homeschoolers would feel a need to show up on a "learning at school board" and debate with moms who kids' are thriving at school. What is that about? What is wrong with your own experience that you need to be here insulting me?
You really need to prove that there isn't a down side of homeschooling so badly that you'll insult former homeschooling moms? I think that's more about you than about what kind of mother I am.