Originally Posted by Linda on the move
Sorry about the quote issue - - can't get it to break into individual quotes - my comments are in italics.
The only thing I've said is nearly universal is that most homeschooling moms are trying to do more than they actually can reasonably do. Most will admit that -- when they are speaking only to other homeschoolers (and no body need take my word for it, just read through the homeschooling support board here. Summer isn't the best time to see -- go back to fall and winter. it happens every year)
Well a couple of threads on a discussion board doesn't equate to MOST in my mind. And most moms at somepoint admit that they are trying to do more than they can. I just had this exact same conversation with a friend who works part time and both her kids are in school (well not in the summer but you know what I mean hopefully). It goes back to my point that this is a common experience for parenting particularly with young kids or larger families. It's by no means unique to homeschooling.
The whole "this is so easy for me and for all other homeschoolers, the problem was you" is just the BS that homeschoolers put up to outsiders. And I'm now very happily an outsider.
The odd thing is, I haven't said homeschooling is a bad thing, or that all kids should be in school. Quite the opposite. I've said there are pros and cons to all educational options, but that the homeschooling community can't bring themselves to be honest about the cons of homeschooling.
And you all are proving that VERY well. The need to show up on a Learning at Home School and repeatedly state that the are no cons to homeschooling is fairly transparent. Seriously, you honestly except ANYONE to believe there are no cons? You might disagree about the what the cons are, or feel the benefits far outweigh the cons for your kids, but to say there are not cons at all is .....not believable. Everything in life has pros and cons.
Umm in one of my posts I listed some of the things that could be considered cons for our family. Loss of my possible full time income being one of them. But I choose to look at them as opportunities for the most part in part because I don't think publich schooling would offer a very different set of pros/cons - that's just how I see life. Clearly you take a different view.
I cannot fathom what in the world some of you are doing showing up on a learning at school board insulting a me, a mother whose child has autism. And my crime?
Saying that homeschooling wasn't the best for MY child, and getting her the education she deserves. Frankly, some of you really need to sit down and figure out what happened to you make you like this. You've become so hung on your method of education that you are insulting me for doing something else for my special needs child. For being open about our experience.
I never insulted you or your children and have been very careful to disagree with you but not make it personal. In fact I have said repeatedly that I think it is a good thing you have found a place you and they are so pleased with. Can you say the same thing the tone and content of your comments to me or other homeschoolers here whose input you outright dismissed because their children are a year or two younger than yours when you stopped homeschooling?
Frankly, some of you really need to sit down and figure out what happened to you make you like this. You've become so hung on your method of education that you are insulting me for doing something else for my special needs child. For being open about our experience.
Is the goal just to be sh*tty enough to anyone who has had a bad experience that you get them to shut up?
Nope I dont' think anyone has told you to shut up. And disagreements about philosophy or offering alternative perspectives isn't being
I never said YOU shouldn't be homeschooling. I said it wasn't what was best for MY child at this time.
No one has disagreed with you about what is best for your child. Not one. And no one to my knowledge has said anything detrimental about your choice or your child(ren) or their challenges, has insulted you, or asked you not to share your story.
Linda I get that this is an emotional issue for you. But for some of us, it's just an interesting discussion, one where some of us disagree with the position you take and the assertions you are making, or want to offer a different perspective which you insist on ridiculing or suggesting is unhealthy or dishonest.
I can accept that your experience was valid for you. Why can't you offer the same respect to those who have a different experience?