My daughter is 14 months old and started daycare at 12 months, 2 days/week. Her personality and behaviour at home changed immediately, she became very clingy especially to me. My husband and I have followed attachement parenting principles and our daughter is a very easy going, empathetic, happy girl that RARELY cries at home. However the daycare providers comment on how she cries often, and prefers to either be held or in the high chair. Also after interviewing several daycare providers we were sold on this one as they seemed to agree with our parenting styles and supported our decision not to cry it out or follow strict napping schedules. My gut instinct lately is that i'm not happy with our daughter's care (even though we've had soo many parents rave about how much they love/d this daycare). And we recently heard of them letting our daughter cry in a crib for 10 minutes prior to sleep - something we don't do and don't agree with.
I realize with multiple kids in daycare, crying for extended period may be part of the norm. So even though i don't agree with it, do I have to accept this practice with my daughter if i need daycare? She may not be ready for daycare but I don't have much choice, i have to work at least 2 days/week.