I have an 8 year old DD and an almost 13 year old DS. My father in law is currently terminally ill with brain cancer. He's had surgery and radiation and is on chemo, but the outlook is 24 months at the most (this being somewhat unrealistic we're being told) to maybe 7 or 9 months at the shortest.
I think my DD will be okay when the time comes. I'm really worried about DS. He and his grandfather are extremely close. Last summer (before the diagnosis) DS and FIL would golf 2 or 3 times a week, go to the movies, etc. He was a very involved grandpa. DS sees a lot less of FIL because the first symptom of the cancer was seizures and FIL didn't want the kids to witness him having one, so we only saw him once a week or so. Now since surgery, we try to see him twice or more a week.
We have not told the kids about the time frame my FIL has been given. But I'm torn because I don't want this to "sneak up" on them either. DS is pretty smart and probably in some part of his mind knows that FIL isn't going to be around much longer. But he's also a kid with an optimistic attitude.
Last summer we lost our dog and DS was inconsolable. I can't imagine how losing his grandfather will hit him. Anyone who has been there, done that, or has a good book or any other suggestion, I would be extremely grateful!