Not getting along with your kids friends parent

[Koalamom]

My dd only has 2 friends since moving here and they are sisters next door. My dd loves them and at age 4 really needs the social interaction. But, their mom and I don't get along at all. I feel like I need to maintain a nice relationship with this woman so my dd has friends but it is driving me crazy. Anyone in this same boat? If my dd were older, she could be more independent without me.

[mamazee]

I would just be polite but distant if you don't like her. I do think it's important to be polite so there is communication between you, but you don't have to be friends, and you're right that as your dd gets older it will stop being much of an issue anyway.

[One_Girl]

Do you live in a safe neighborhood?  If so then you can give her some boundaries to stay in while playing with them and you won't have to talk to the mom very much at all.  If not then I would swap off houses and just send the kids.  Four is a good age for playdates to start, especially if your issue is more a personality clash than a difference of opinions in parenting styles.