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You know what's bothering me here lately about Facebook? Â It's that bands, small activist groups, etc. no longer have web pages, or have not updated their webpages in a very long time! Â I want to go check up on such'n'such group to see if they're touring in my area... and their website hasn't been updated in three years! Â But their FB page is recent!
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I just don't care for the way it's assumed everyone is "logged in" all the time.
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We have a new feature that allows forum members to create "clubs" of their own that have many of the same benefits of a forum, including multiple threads, a member's list, and group messaging. All tribes are invited to switch from the one-long-thread here in FYT to the new Social Groups. You can read more about it here. Let me know if you have any questions but please post to that thread so I can keep everything in one place. 
I'd like to start a social group for this tribe!! :)
I'd like to start a social group for this tribe!! :)
My mom has been all over me to get on FB. Â I told her I think it is creepy. Â I had to reclaim a FB page my son made at a friend's house, but only used the once and then forgot his password. Â A couple "friends" got the password and used it to impersonate him and make rude and sexual comments to nearly every girl in town, except for those which would get back to him/us. Â I managed to reset the password and reset it, and am "holding" the page until/if DS ever wants to get on FB. Â At the moment, he has no desire, but it's given me a chance to investigate FB and how it works. Â
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At around the same time, DH decided he should make a FB. Â He is studying Media Technology in school and it will be rather expected of him to have a page and will look odd to not find anything when he goes job-hunting. Â I told him to please not post any pictures of the kids, and he's fine with that. Â We discovered that you can share video/pics selectively, so we investigated being able to post something occasionally just for family, but noticed that DH could see videos of people he was not friends with if people he was friends with commented. Â So we experimentally posted a nonsense video to just my sis and asked if she commented on it, if she could share it with others. Â And, yes, she could. Â So what is the point of only sharing with selective people? Â Crazy! Â
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And back to my mom, she called me a few weeks back all upset because she knew her family was lying to her! Â Her niece was in town, but lied to my mom about it, and she found out because she posted that she had been on FB. Â Also, my mom has two sisters, her twin and an older sister. Â The older sister lives in the same town as my mom, and her twin lives 3 hours away. Â The two of them have a very close relationship, and have excluded my mom, and this becomes all the more obvious because of FB. Â I wish my mom would just get off FB!Â
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I really want to delete my FB. Its sucking me in, I read drama all over there, friend's who are going through divorces and posting every detail of their divorce on there etc.etc.
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I am scared though if I do quit FB I will not hear from my family in Europe as much. I was born and raised in The Netherlands, and left Europe 11 years ago to be with DH here. So, I feel almost obligated to be on there, or I won't hear or see any pictures etc!
Please tell me what the cons are to having a social group? I just thought it was a place where we could have multiple threads for varying conversations... it seems more versatile to me, no? 
I really want to delete my FB. Its sucking me in, I read drama all over there, friend's who are going through divorces and posting every detail of their divorce on there etc.etc.
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I am scared though if I do quit FB I will not hear from my family in Europe as much. I was born and raised in The Netherlands, and left Europe 11 years ago to be with DH here. So, I feel almost obligated to be on there, or I won't hear or see any pictures etc!
Do it!! Just make an effort to stay in touch via email... and remind them to send pictures, etc... my sister lives abroad too, as well as several friends and it was the best thing I've ever done! It's actually strengthened those relationships because it forced me not to rely only on snippets and status updates... I actually communicate with personal emails and more Skype calls than before as well!!
Good idea. :-)
Do it!! Just make an effort to stay in touch via email... and remind them to send pictures, etc... my sister lives abroad too, as well as several friends and it was the best thing I've ever done! It's actually strengthened those relationships because it forced me not to rely only on snippets and status updates... I actually communicate with personal emails and more Skype calls than before as well!!
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Well I am new here to MDC, and recently quit FB. I am 47 years old, and recently gained physical custody of my grandkids, ages 1,4, and 6. My life has changed so much now, that I really just had to cut ties to everything that did not serve my highest good, and nurture and support my new situation. I found myself getting messages from people that never talked to me prior...and I feel that it was just a nosy intrusion, not one of wanting to be there to support me emotionally or anything. I also found myself getting jealous of my friends who were able to continue to live their lives, going places, sleeping in, and living single or at least stable lives. I miss social interaction of all kinds...and that is why I am here, hopefully to make some new friends, and to learn as I go about the many facets of mothering in today's world. I looked for my tribe and not sure ...there are a lot of groups I may fall in to, but this one is my start... prior to taking my grandkids in...I had left my career of nursing for 28 years, due to severe burnout, and a conflict of interest in my value system. I had plotted and planned for years how to do this and how to leave "mainstream" society.....less than a month out...I got a call and had to make a trip back to the town I had left....and jump back into mainstream....get the kids to safety, find a home, and a job....immediately. so here we are. having so many mixed emotions with how to raise these angels. I do not want to mess them up at all, but it kills me to see my 6 year old granddaughter maturing too fast and complaining about being fat. I do not like what social media does to us or or children....sorry to get off the FB topic, but I needed to....and if anyone has suggestion as to where I need to post, feel free to advise. I am also considering moving to an intentional community with the children, but approaching this slowly and with much thought.... Â thanks for listening momma's!
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welcome to MDC. There are some awesome women here. Check out Talk Amongst Ourselves and the Childhood Years.
I don't this this is off topic AT ALL! Â Living with purpose and distancing from the mainstream is easier when you're not on FB (and when you limit online time/tv time *period*). Â What I've noticed about a lot of younger folks is that it's hard to get to know them aside from their online veneer. Â It's like you really have to dig to get them to open up about their likes/dislikes because FB nurtures them and they canNOT break out of their bubble and appear not cool or have their own opinion, not for one minute. Â Am I generalizing? Â Yes, but tell me if you've seen the same thing or give me a story otherwise. Â I definitely think this is an issue that needs discussing!
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FYI, there is an intentional community about 10 minutes up the road from me in Sunny Fla. Â I think they have a baby there now, but for the longest time there were no kids, and the community is definitely open to more folks and youngins! Â http://www.ecofarmfl.org
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Whatever you decide to do, houston, I hope you can get the support you need!
I really have no interest in the FB thing... I have a google+ account that I literally never update, but I was more amenable to that because it didn't require yet.another.login (I'm so bloody sick of making new logins!) somewhere. I just don't have the patience for the drama and pressure of the FB world. Plus I'd get seriously addicted to the stupid games. >.<
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As a (soon-to-be) social worker/counselor, there are two schools of thought regarding FB: you need a page so people in the community can look you up and feel like you're trustworthy, but it needs to be a professional-only page (no pics of last weekend's drunken party, or whatever). Alternatively, you absolutely cannot friend any clients/potential clients because there's a possibility of boundary/ethical issues.Â
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So... I need to make a page just to have a page, and keep that page updated, and have that page be public/professional so it looks like I'm a real human being and trustworthy enough to see for counseling services without having to "friend" clients, but I can't post anything that's about my actual life because it might be controversial or offensive? Which means I couldn't friend half my friends, because I can't control what they post and I know them well enough to know they'll post plenty of offensive and controversial things. But then my family/friends will be upset if I 1) don't friend them or 2) don't post enough personal updates, so now I have to have TWO pages, one for pretending to be a professional automatron, and one for getting sucked into the pressure and drama of minute-by-minute updates for people who can't be bothered to do more than click "like" if I want to talk about something that actually matters?
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....gee, sounds like fun. Where do I sign up? 
Oy! I hear you... I just have a LinkedIn profile for the professional stuff. It makes me look trustworthy and professional and everyone can add me, but there is no "wall" for people to write on. That said, if you must have a FB profile for professional reasons, you can add all your family and friends and set the privacy settings to make it so that no one can tag you in photos or notes and no one can write on your wall except you. Good luck! Doesn't sound fun to me. I've been FB free for several months now and I do NOT miss it at all!
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I really have no interest in the FB thing... I have a google+ account that I literally never update, but I was more amenable to that because it didn't require yet.another.login (I'm so bloody sick of making new logins!) somewhere. I just don't have the patience for the drama and pressure of the FB world. Plus I'd get seriously addicted to the stupid games. >.<
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As a (soon-to-be) social worker/counselor, there are two schools of thought regarding FB: you need a page so people in the community can look you up and feel like you're trustworthy, but it needs to be a professional-only page (no pics of last weekend's drunken party, or whatever). Alternatively, you absolutely cannot friend any clients/potential clients because there's a possibility of boundary/ethical issues.Â
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So... I need to make a page just to have a page, and keep that page updated, and have that page be public/professional so it looks like I'm a real human being and trustworthy enough to see for counseling services without having to "friend" clients, but I can't post anything that's about my actual life because it might be controversial or offensive? Which means I couldn't friend half my friends, because I can't control what they post and I know them well enough to know they'll post plenty of offensive and controversial things. But then my family/friends will be upset if I 1) don't friend them or 2) don't post enough personal updates, so now I have to have TWO pages, one for pretending to be a professional automatron, and one for getting sucked into the pressure and drama of minute-by-minute updates for people who can't be bothered to do more than click "like" if I want to talk about something that actually matters?
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....gee, sounds like fun. Where do I sign up?Â
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You can make it to where someone can't tag you??? How do I do that?
I hate it when people tag me in pictures. lol
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Oy! I hear you... I just have a LinkedIn profile for the professional stuff. It makes me look trustworthy and professional and everyone can add me, but there is no "wall" for people to write on. That said, if you must have a FB profile for professional reasons, you can add all your family and friends and set the privacy settings to make it so that no one can tag you in photos or notes and no one can write on your wall except you. Good luck! Doesn't sound fun to me. I've been FB free for several months now and I do NOT miss it at all!
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I have started a group here: http://www.mothering.com/community/groups/show/17/not-on-facebook-tribe for us to post any number of discussions as a group. It has none of the exclusivity associated with the PP's objections, as anyone can join at any time with no restrictions. You are a member when you say you are. 
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We can talk about anything and start individual topic threads there to keep them more organized.
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Anyone want to be a co-leader with me? The job entails MDC moderation in the same way that other MDC forums are moderated for adherence to MDC guidelines...
