That's true re the cargo, but I'm figuring if we're hauling the entire family it's unlikely we'd end up with a boatload of cargo (we are usually on the way to church, recreation/hiking, etc) and it could be easily secured with some kind of cargo net. I think we're going the route of the single folding seat since it's an easy out and could just store it until we need it for a whole-family trip. When we were looking for cars we looked around for 12 psgr vans but there just weren't a bunch of them and I'm not ready to commit to a 15 psgr (I'm already bad enough at parking the suburban!)...
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haha - yeah, I think I'd have trouble parking a 15 passenger anything too.
I'm also looking at the single seat. Thanks for the idea of a cargo net. We use a lot of our cargo space because the kids play sports. So there's usually a cooler, stroller, chairs, and softball equipment back there.
I'm sure there are options. DH is a tad worried about cargo space. He LOVES all the cargo space we have. But I think it's a great solution for the time being. We DO eventually plan to upgrade, but we have other things we need to take care of first. I'd rather go that route and make do with seat for now and upgrade when we really are ready vs having to "rush" into something a bit with limited funding - not get something we really want plus put off some of the other things we're trying to do. We'll definitely have to talk about which way we want to go.
Baby #4 here. We haven't told anyone, yet. We planned this baby, just like we did with the other three, but I"m way more hesitant to share the news this time for fear of the negative comments I might get. Why is 3 kids OK, but 4 makes you crazy? Our children only have 3 cousins, and likely won't have any more and we want them to have lots of family around them (we are all close on both sides of our family). Our own cousins were very important to both DH and me, and since our kids have so few (we each have close to 20), we just wanted a bigger family of our own. I am excited about this new baby, but worried about sharing the news with anyone who doesn't have 4 kids of their own.
I keep checking this thread because I am sooooo excited about this baby but know that I'm going to get negitive looks from my family when I tell them tomorrow. I'm With Samuelsmom, who has decided haveing 2 or 3 is ok but when you have more your next in line for a TV show. I LOVE being a mom, I love being pregnant, and I have a suportive helpful husband. One thing I am scared about is this is my 7th pregnancy(one miscarage) so I am thinking that it is possible that it could be twins. I have always wanted twins but it being #6and7 seem a little streesful! Oh well if i get twins YAY for us!
Maybe I will feel more confident if I just jump into this folder.
This thread is a good one, as this baby, if it's sticky, will be #4 of my living children. The outside world does not know yet, so comments haven't started. I got soooo much unwanted and icky "sympathy" when pregnant with my third one that I am not looking forward to what I hear this time around. Need to start thinking of my answers now...."No, we weren't "trying for our girl"....yes we know what causes that....no we're not crazy....If this is a girl, are we done? I hope not!..."
My family will be very happy for me. The rest of the peoples around here, not so much.
Brisen- I was dreeding telling my family as well. We told them last night. They thought I was jokeing but then when I ddint' flinch my SIL(the last person I thought would say Yay) said "YAY". They really didn't say a whole lot. I already had comebacks ready for negative coments. I think I would of rather had negative then just passiveness.
We're expecting #4. We haven't told many people yet- only my best friend and my two favorite SILs know. One reason I'm waiting a while is that the 1st trimester seems to go so slowly when people are contantly asking you how you're feeling. The other is that we have 3 boys and I know people are going be saying "hopefully it will finally be your girl so you can be done!". While I would love to have a girl, I will be just as thrilled if it's another precious little boy. DH is the oldest of 4 boys in a row in his family (7 kids total) so I think he's hoping for another boy. My husband and I have always wanted a large family and we are nowhere near done! Personally,I can't imagine being 30 (which I turn in January) and deciding to be done having kids!
Darn that woman! She was right. After that I always felt like I "should" feel done, but I didn't.
I was starting to get used to the idea. Now with this BFP, the thought of having another big belly has me smiling.
Wishing us all a H&H9!
Oh my gosh StacyM- I was the same way. I said "I want to be young when my kids are grown".
Me and my husband were talking last night. He said "did you think that when we got married we would have 5 kids and one on the way?" I said "no I only wanted 3" Now to think about only haveing our first 3 seems so sad and empty and.....EASY!! Hahaha! I love my bigish family and when they are grown we are going to have some AWSOME times together. We already do have awsome times but just the thought of get togethers and all that make me sooooo happy!
I'm so gratefull for this thread. it makes me feel like I'm not crazy!
Now to think about only haveing our first 3 seems so sad and empty and.....EASY!! Hahaha! I love my bigish family and when they are grown we are going to have some AWSOME times together. We already do have awsome times but just the thought of get togethers and all that make me sooooo happy!
I'm so gratefull for this thread. it makes me feel like I'm not crazy!
Absolutely! My first three wonderful children are from my first marriage. When DH and I married 8 years ago we decided that we liked our family size (he was not previously married and didn't have any children prior to our marriage) and didn't intend to expand. Two years in we discover we're pregnant and while we were surprised, we were pretty happy. When he was a year old and we were trying to decide whether or not to have more (there's an 11.5 year gap between my 3rd and my 4th and we knew he'd be kind of an "only child" if we didn't have more...and the only grandson on DH's side (other than my older son) so we worried he'd be SPOIILED) we decided to leave that up to the Lord...then came Mesa, then came Sadie, then came the latest Bun. I have a friend I haven't seen in 6 or 7 years visiting today and tomorrow and our older kids were about the same age. She and her husband are now empty nesters. I admit...a couple of times I've looked at them and thought..."wow...to sleep in...to have discretionary spending money...to not feel pukey right now..." But...like you, I look ahead...we already have SO much fun (and bring so much fun...we were at a friend's going away party yesterday with everyone from church and watching our 17mo - well, all of our young children - play brought so many people joy. But I look down the road at family gatherings 20, 30 years from now - and WHAT FUN! What a blessing for my husband and I. (Of course, my friend and her husband will have wonderful times with their family as well...I just know when I look down the road that I would rather have our big, loud, family than an empty nest and more money right now.)
Yesterday we told more people about the bun and I most were truly happy for us but I am amazed at some people. We have friends from church who have 2. I think their children are about 10 and 7. Mom's response to the news was, "WHAT!? Are you insane?" We laughed and the gal next to me - who has been my friend since we were in 8th grade...a LOOOOOONG time ago said, "yes, but not because of pregnancies." And the mom said, "Really - are you certifiably insane? I would never want more after my 2nd." I asked if she had a rough pregnancy and she said that she really hadn't...had too much water retention but that was it. Then she said that her husband worked the day before and it was just she and her 7yo daughter at home and "it was awful - I hated it - I can't stand being alone with her. She makes me crazy." For a people who are supposed to love children (as God does), we can be so selfish...
Baby number 4! I really do think we are done with this one. If we are being financially responsible we should have been done with two:( I am excited now but I was a little shocked. We hadn't planned this and I still haven't told DH. I know he'll be fine about it he always is! He just runs his mouth to people that say rude things and I'm not ready to hear any of it yet!
THIS! I think about the same thing and can't imagine it any other way. :)
We just got the positive test yesterday! This is baby # 4 for us, and while not planned it is very welcome. I look forward to getting to know all of you.
I think we'll tell the kids soon, they have been having a lot of fun with their baby niece lately and I think they will be thrilled to hear the news.
Like many of you, I'm a little hesitant on telling family. They are not super supportive anyways (about anything) so I'd like to soak up our happiness for a bit before they potentially give us the frowney face.
We are still in shock :-)