What is "The One thread" and why is it so cliquey?

[Celticqueen]

I left the January DDC after a few weeks because everyone on there already knew eachother from "The One Thread" and ignored me. I tried chiming in about other threads, but was ignored, or flat out didn't know what to say becuase everyone talked about things that only applied to them and their cliques. Everyone has inside jokes on there, some have even met in person. I started a thread introducing myself, but was ignored. It actually didn't offend me seriously- it's just a silly DDC on an online forum and I'm already friends with most of the members of my previous pregnancy, oh and real life friends- those too 

But it got me thinking. WHAT EFF IS THE ONE THREAD? It sounds like The One Ring. Is it the one thread to rule them all, or something? Are the people in it more powerful than the rest of us?  

Anyway, it's annoying that I don't even know what it is, and when I open it, it's just randomness. What club created this and why are some people in it and some people not? Are people excluded? WHY JOIN IN? Has this been an ongoing thing for 10 years and therefor, this is a completely novice thing to ask?

The most important question....Should I even care?  Of course I shouldn't. But I can't help but be curious at this point since it's friggen everywhere on the boards and gets me the silent treatment, apparently. I get the feeling it's some kind of cool crowd or something?

[Cynthia Mosher]

I PMed you to ask you for a link to the thread you're referring to but you can post it here so others might help explain too. :)

[tinybutterfly]

I've heard of The One Thread, but I am not really sure what it is.

I think it's a thread in TTC that has been very long running and members are trying to get pregnant.

I used to belong to a thread like that ( the old Sisterhood Thread, which was a continuation of The OLD Sisterhood thread) and there were some inside jokes from The OLD Sisterhood thread that I never understood, because I wasn't around then, but eventually I settled in and got comfortable and made friends. It took awhile.

There's another thread in TAO now ( something about cake lovers?) that is maybe similar.

They are chat threads.

BUT I could be wrong about The One Thread, since I have not joined it. I opened it once, but since I am not trying to get pg, it wasn't someplace I needed to be. So after I skimmed, I left. I could be all wrong about what it actually IS.

Sorry you are feeling ignored.

[Celticqueen]

Originally Posted by Cynthia Mosher 

I PMed you to ask you for a link to the thread you're referring to but you can post it here so others might help explain too. :)

I will post it here, thanks!

[Celticqueen]

Originally Posted by tinybutterfly 

Sorry you are feeling ignored.

Thank you! But no worries. I didn't cry myself to sleep or get flustered about it  Just irritated me slightly is all. I don't really mind not having a DDC this pregnancy- it was really fun and supportive and WONDERFUL the last pregnancy, but they were different women, they seemed a lot friendlier to "outsiders" and were really warm and welcoming. Different crowd I guess and apparently not all DDC's are the same 

I finally did get a few responses to introducing myself- just checked it, but it doesn't really matter anymore. Not going back- the clique nature of it really burned me out quickly. Not into that crap

[Celticqueen]

http://www.mothering.com/community/forum/thread/1315554/the-one-thread-graduates-june-2011 is from the Pregnancy Forum, and I went to the TTC forum just now to see what it was referring to by talking about branching from another "One Thread" and there are quite a few different ones so I didn't post the links here.

Anyway, I guess it is a chat thread. But I am finding that it's pointless to join if it's been going on awhile since everyone already knows each other. It reminds me of the cafeteria at lunchtime in high school. Everyone's already sitting at their table and someone walks over with their tray wanting to sit down with them  And in the case of the January DDC- get some looks, but no responses 

I am apart of a wonderful mom's group here in my town and we meet at a house- most of them homeschool, are natural and think just like me, so I'm not looking for that to fulfill me on here. Just irritated at all the cliques, because, while I'm not looking for serious friendships, it would be nice to not be out of the loop so much, KWIM?

[AdinaL]

May I answer this one? Since I was modding the forum and TTC when the One Thread came about (many moons ago).

It was begun because we had this system at the time where there was a Pre-ovulation thread, and a 2ww thread, and some of us (who were spending rather a long time in the TTC forum) didn't like that we missed when folks moved over to the 2ww thread, and thus missed pregnancy announcements etc.  Lord of the Rings came out right around that time and one of the long time members of TTC came up with this idea.  So, the One Thread was born, a single thread that folks who were TTC could jump in on and the thread runner would keep tabs on their info: who was pre-o, who was in the 2ww, who got postives, who didn't.  There was one thread per month, and usually a different person ran it each month. I don't know how they handle it now. It was actually really wonderful to have all the info and be able to offer support.  People jumped in and left all the time.  

That being said - it got rather unwieldy and long some months. LOL

I'm sorry to hear that it feels cliquey. :(  It has been running longer than I ever thought it would.  I know it was a source of great comfort for those folks who end up TTC longer than they ever expected to, and I formed some fabulous friendships in my nearly 4 years TTC.  I think that might be part of it as well.  

[Banana731]

i was (and am) a part of the one thread. it's just a great big thread for those TTC to talk about struggles and successes, to chart stalk and ask questions, that sort of thing. they welcome everyone in while on that journey, those who are ttc, waiting, or have conceived. i still post in there every so often to congratulate the long time TTCers when they get their bfp. the thread itself is actually really welcoming to new posters. i know the new mamas on your ddc don't mean to be cliquey. i think that when you are ttc, and especially when you have been doing so for a long time as many of those ladies have, you get close with the people who are going through it with you. just like the ladies in a ddc do.

i would say give your ddc some more time. don't forget that the One mamas have been chatting about being pregnant with each other since they first saw that pink line, so they are going to be the first ones in a ddc probably.  it's still pretty early on though. a lot of mamas don't post too much in the first tri. many more will wander in as you get further into your pregnancies.